Can i save this marriage or not worth it

[Irene91]

Hey everyone could do with some advice as my mind is shambles!!!

Me and husband have been in an argument for a week hes made no effort , yesterday i decided to sit by him and ask what he would like from this marriage. He believes im at fault as i had asked him to communicate and help a bit, he tries 1-2 days and then zilch no communication again. Hes told me i am wrong as he was apparently trying. Honestly he makes no effort as far as id like a relationship to be like.

I told him he needs to stop with the silent treatment as its such poor child behaviour and speak to me, he kept working on his laptop ignored me completely and said his had enough, told me do what you want as i told him id leave if he wont tell me what he wants aswell, cause im fed up. I ended up crying, honestly didn't want to but i just want happiness with this man.. He got pissed of and told me 'for fuck sakes' so i left room and cried upstairs. My heart hurts honestly

I was so disappointed last because i wanted proper answers. All i keep hearing is i cant be bothered right now well speak later

What should i do give it time or just leave with our kids as its mentally fucking me up.

Life’s too short to stay with someone who leaves you miserable

Indeed through. But hes made me feel im the problem and im questioning that.. Thats the issue i cant get across myself @Whentheydontmeanwhattheysay

You get one life. This is it. It’s not a dress rehearsal for the real thing. He doesn’t sound caring or willing to try and you cannot fix a relationship by yourself. I can’t tell you what to do. Only you know whether there is hope things will change significantly or whether this just isn’t working. My advice to you is to be utterly honest with yourself. Do not stay because you haven’t got an alternative. Or you can’t imagine the alternative. There is always an alternative. You need to be honest and strong. Is there enough of this marriage to save?

You need to have a serious sit down and a conversation - one to one with no distractions.

Be clear about what you both need, what needs to happen to achieve that, and decide whether you're both willing to make changes to accommodate each other.

If you're not willing, the marriage is dead.
If communication is just poor, there's a chance you could save it.

Quiet honestly no because ive started to resent him and he know this.. I.e whilst being intimate i hate him because of stuff he puts me through.. Thats the closest time i understand my feelings.

Also he doesn't ever say sorry he got a habit of doing it around the weekends so its really started to piss me off.

My only HOPE is the kids he can be a good dad when he wants to be here but is that enough @BurlyChassey

Hey lovely i tried yestersay 3 times all 3 times he ignored me and carried on working on his laptop.. I know it wasn't anything important either that he was working towards. He spent the whole day out yesterday with his mates @girlmom21

Surely if he cared he would either listen or try speak to me by now knowing its hurting me

@Irene91

Hey lovely i tried yestersay 3 times all 3 times he ignored me and carried on working on his laptop.. I know it wasn't anything important either that he was working towards. He spent the whole day out yesterday with his mates *@girlmom21*

Surely if he cared he would either listen or try speak to me by now knowing its hurting me

If you've tried repeatedly and got nowhere there's not much hope I'm afraid.

Start making steps towards leaving him if you're prepared to do so x

No, being a good day when he chooses to be around is not good enough! You deserve to be happy. You deserve to be respected. You deserve to be free. I know it’s hard.

*good dad