Drunk DH randomly tells me “he didn’t do anything”

[Redredwiney]

NC for this just in case!

DH went out for work drinks tonight and came home absolutely smashed - stop the taxi and throw up in the street level of smashed. In the 5 years we’ve been together, I’ve never seen him get so drunk. It’s the first time he’s been “out out” in a year and a half, and had more than just a couple of drinks (I was pregnant and then exhausted with a baby over the lockdowns), so I suspect it’s a combination of drinking more than usual after 18 months of not drinking much.

He looked really upset when he came in and kept saying “sorry”. I just said it’s fine, go to bed, but he kept saying sorry and then said “I haven’t done anything tonight by the way”.

I trust him implicitly so the thought didn’t even cross my mind at all, but now I can’t help but wonder if I should be worried. My gut says it’s just silly talk so I’m not concerned, but I have no clue why he would even say that so my brain is thinking huh.

Thoughts?

Oof yeah that's a weird one. That would unsettle me too.
Does he have a history of drug taking when he was younger? He could mean that.

Did they go to a lapdancing club or something? Sounds like something might have happened when they were out he is tp drunk to tell you so said that! Maybe

I would wait till tomorrow don't let it go round and round in your head just ask him.

Maybe he was saying “I didn’t do anything tonight” because he realised it was odd he was saying “sorry” repeatedly? I’m guessing he was sorry for coming home drunk as a lord?

This could go either way.

Maybe he did and is already guilty.

Maybe he had a temptation, didn't go through with it and is only able to say that

Maybe he has past form (drugs as a PP said) and didn't take anything.

See how he is in the morning.
Sorry you're worrying.

It could just be that notacoolmum . He is going to have a humdinger of a hangover tomorrow .

No, not at all. Most he ever did was take a couple of puffs from a spliff when he was at uni.

I don’t know who was at these work drinks so don’t know the personalities involved. I know he used to have a crush on a junior colleague (the classic her name came up a good few times, although to be fair she was a very attractive young woman) but she left a year ago so she wouldn’t have been there for him to embarrass himself.

I’m sure it’s nothing, just left me a tad confused!

Can you check his phone?

@Mrsjayy

Did they go to a lapdancing club or something? Sounds like something might have happened when they were out he is tp drunk to tell you so said that! Maybe

A lap dancing club wouldn’t have bothered me, he knows that (as long as he didn’t have a personal dance, that’s my line), so he would have told me if he went. It’s not really his thing anyway, the last time he went was on a stag 4 years ago. He might have been pressured into going tonight possibly, but he’s always been good at leaving a party when it gets too rowdy.

@NotaCoolMum

Maybe he was saying “I didn’t do anything tonight” because he realised it was odd he was saying “sorry” repeatedly? I’m guessing he was sorry for coming home drunk as a lord?

Oh that’s possible. That’s what I assumed he was sorry at, coming home drunk when I was with a teething baby all day. I was a tad annoyed at his state, but not overly so because he’s barely been anywhere in 18 months, but he might have picked up on that annoyance. But it was more urgh, please don’t throw up, and urgh, please don’t do smelly farts near me, rather than annoyed at him coming home late and drunk!

I’ll speak to him in the morning. I’m sure it’s nothing but he just completely threw me off. I’m sure it’s innocent but it raises a question in that does he think I don’t completely trust him, hence why he felt the need to reassure me.

@Guiltypleasures001

Can you check his phone?

I can do but I won’t. I feel like it’s a slippery slope. I have full access to it whenever I need to access it, but I’ve never snooped and don’t want to start.