Feeling hopeless

[Sar33]

I have been in a relationship for 2 years and we live together. We never agrued and he is a very genuine nice guy. We had become more like friends though.
I wasn't looking for anything else until 6 weeks ago when someone else walked into my life. I have fell in love with this other person so quickly and deeply.
My boyfriend found messages on my phone. I have tried to end things with my boyfriend but he will not accept it. He says he forgives me and wants to make things work, but I am not asking for forgiveness.

We are in a fixed term joint tenancy agreement until early summer next year, so neither of us can move out as we can't afford the rent without the other.

He wants me to make things work with him but I don't want to. I keep giving in to the begging because I feel so guilty.

I really don't know what to do, but I feel so unhappy.

Honestly op, you're in a risky situation. It's really not safe to stay with a man you have ended things with, who is refusing to take that for an answer. Let alone when he now knows you are seeing someone else.

Who's account does the rent money come out of? Is there only one bedroom (could the person staying take on a lodger?)

You could always talk to the estate agent (or whomever he renting you the place) and see if they could reduce the lease.

In the mean time, make sure you are sleeping on the sofa. And don't do any of his chores.

Also, he doesn't have to agree to end things. It's entirely your choice. You have decided to end it so it is over, whether he likes it or not.

He is sleeping in the spare room but just can't accept its over. He doesn't understand why this has happened. I didn't plan for it to happen.

I'm going away for a few days in a couple of weeks, he thinks that I will have clarity on the situation then and will come back and be with him. He told me I have to cut all contact with the new person until then to get me a clear head, and that is hurting me, the new person is all I have in the world right now to make me feel happy.

We share the cost of the rent, but it comes out of my bank account.

Tell him 'I don't have to do anything. I've veen perfectly clear, we are over. O v.e.r. over'.

That being said, please be careful you are not being 'love bombed' by this new guy. Whirlwind romances are rarely healthy (make sure you know how to spot narcissists-npd- when dating). If I were you I would concentrate on escaping this relationship first.