Stating the obvious or something else?

[barnett1]

DP has always said things that I find a little odd but I'm starting to wonder if there is another reason he says these things.

DP will hand me the remote and say 'Do you want to put something on TV'. So I do. He'll then say 'So that's what we're going to watch then, is it?'.

DP will walk in to the kitchen whilst I'm cooking dinner and say 'So that's what we're having for dinner then, is it?'.

There are plenty more examples like the above. I know it looks silly written down. I used to just think he was pointing out the obvious, but it's nearly all the time now and I actually feel like I am having to defend my decisions / what I'm doing if that makes sense? Maybe I'm just being sensitive.

He will also ask me (on a daily basis) what kind of mood I'm in today. I'm hardly ever in a bad mood, so I think why on Earth is he always asking me this? Maybe I am grumpy all the time? But I know I'm not. Feel like I'm losing the plot sometimes!

Feel like I'm losing the plot sometimes!

That's worrying as symptomatic of gaslighting and manipulation.

You might think we're being dramatic but this is how emotional abuse starts..often very slowly and gets progressively worse.
What was his childhood like? Relationship with parents?

Ex H was like this...on the TV example he would then get up and walk out as I was watching something he didn't like. I would have happily changed but the issue wasn't the TV but him punishing me.
10 years later I found myself walking behind him, trying to placate him...finally had the lightbulb moment and left.

Of course we has great times so it's extremely confusing and seems petty to end a relationship over.

It really is gaslighting barnet and it will get worse as it goes on. You will spend the rest of this relationship second guessing yourself. I can only speak for myself, and I hope other people are more resilient than me and this isn't the case for them, but even after a couple of years of therapy I still live my entire life from the default position that if there is a problem, it's probably my fault and that there is something wrong with my very being and I really struggle to acknowledge my own needs or assert them...because having needs was something I wasn't allowed to do. Gaslighting and dominating relationships really really mess up your head and change your behaviour and the longer you are in it the greater and more long lasting the effect and impact upon future relationships.

It is NOT you

It's HIM

You. Are. Not. Crazy.

Feel like I'm losing the plot sometimes

Stay away from anybody who makes you feel like this. Doesn't matter who's right or wrong. Any relationship that makes you think you're losing it isn't good for you.