.... he's beginning to irritate me. I have reconnected with an old flame and it felt amazing at first. We're both 51. He's just come out of a divorce and I've been divorced and on my own for nearly 5 years. If I had a tick sheet of all my requirements, he meets ever one but something feels off. It's very one-sided for starters - he works away a lot and misses me so much. Thing is, I don't miss him at all. I have DS6 and I'm so busy with him and after school clubs that I don't have time to miss him. Then there's the menopause. I'm on hrt but I still don't feel like me and my sex drive has diminished so not even that is helping to keep me interested. He's a lovely, kind man but I think he's too try hard and I'm finding it exhausting. I have been completely honest with him throughout and told him all this and he is very understanding but even that is starting to irritate me.
When my exH left me, I was bereft! I loved him so much and it took a few years to get over that and now my whole life has adapted to not having a man in it. I suppose i'm struggling to work out whether it's just that this man is not for me or whether any man would be right for me at the moment.
It's my birthday next week and he has all these things planned and he's more excited about it than me tbh. I am so tired most days and in the middle of supporting my best friend who has been left by her husband of 20 years and also my Dad as I lost my Mum in January.
Even typing this all down I feel I know what I need to do but I'm worried I could end up throwing away a future with a kind and loving man. I'm not sure I'm even capable of loving someone like I did my son's Dad.
Any thoughts on what I should do or has anyone else ever felt like this? I am so confused.