Gaming partner

[Janel87]

My partner is addicted to gaming, he regularly stays up past 3am which is becoming more and more of an issue. It is affecting the whole family (we have two young children) as the bulk of the childcare and housework falls on me. Our sex life is non existent as he comes to bed so late. It feels like I’m living with a teenager. I don’t want to be a killjoy but I need to find a way to stop this excessive behaviour. I have tried talking it through, I have asked for less gaming and more family interaction (including help with the boring house stuff). But nothing changes. We both work long hours and I recognise the need for down time. It just feels unfair that he gets more down time than I do and at the expense of me having to do more housework/childcare. Equalling less down time for myself. What should I do?

Lord save us from gaming men.

My ex husband was a gamer. We had baby twins but he would sit up until 1.30/2am every morning to game and then I'd have to drag him up in the morning. He'd deny being addicted but when I said good night the PS4 was on before I'd even reached the bathroom!

He claimed his terrible MH problems were the reason he couldn't talk to me. Yet I could hear him chatting perfectly normally to other gamers while I Iay in bed seething.

You deserve better op and this won't get better. I'd honestly make plans to leave.

You are me just ten years ago. Run. I’m sorry it’s not what you want to hear but I’ve been through all of this. It’s ruined my marriage and my life. I’m too old to start again. You’re not. There’s a lack of maturity/emotional connection that’s hard to explain to anyone not going through it.
It is not like a normal hobby.
I used to argue that if he played football he’d be out twice a week, I’d know the end time and I could sometimes join in. (Watch). This is something else. He never attended family things. Gaming was more interesting. What about you? Where’s the interest in you? As a person? Intimacy. There are other people out there who would enjoy your company. I’ll be frank. It’s a shit life being married to an excessive gamer and it dominates the house. You’ll always be low down on his list of priorities. It’s painful but make moves to build a different life