How do I get over this feeling

[mae2014]

So long story short, I've been with my partner for 2 years, have moved an hour flight away from my family to live here with him so that we can be around for his daughter rather than him moving to where I live,

I get along really well with his dd (age 7) and have a good relationship too with her mum. DP and her had a very rocky relationship and broke up when their dd was very young.

All this aside though, dp has a fairly large (and sometimes a little dysfunctional) family, and i really do try my hardest to fit in but I cant help but feel pushed aside when she turns up to family events/pick ups and stays so long chatting away to everyone and anyone. They're all quite cliquey and rather than diving in head first i tend to back off and go a little quiet as i just feel uncomfortable.

I'm mid 20's so I know a lot of this probably also is down to maturity and to me overthinking things but has any one been in a similar situation/able to offer kind advice?

I cant help but feel like i'll never fit in or have a place in the family, although i know how bonkers it is to say that its just how im feeling :(

Please be kind, I'd just love to know how others cope with these kind of scenarios xx

Honestly, OP, it sounds as if you've taken on a difficult situation, especially for someone so young -- you've moved a flight away from all your own family and friends, and moved into a family where your partner's ex is still very much a part of family events because of their child. Are you saying your partner's family are actively unwelcoming, and make their preference for his ex plain? Doesn't your partner make a point of them being friendly to you?

Its been so difficult :( She made it very difficult at first and I think once she knew we were serious and that I really didn't want any bad blood she finally came around and for the last 12 months we've had no problems at all, which in hand is why im feeling like her relationship with the family has got better as we all get on, but i cant help but over think it and feel uncomfortable when she stays for a while,

I wouldnt say they're actively unwelcoming but they arent the most inviting. They'd be the type to bitch alot and judge. Dp does make an effort to bring me around them but he could be better with making me feel more at ease with them
xx