Messaging another woman?

[onemillionkittens]

Hello, name changed for this one.

I’m after opinions about this situation.

I’ve lost my phone and was using my boyfriend’s. I accidentally clicked on the ‘share’ button (on an iPhone the little box with the arrow in) while I was looking at a website. The suggested people it came up with to ‘share’ to were a random woman on Instagram and two of his close friends.

I looked at the random woman’s Instagram account. She’s quite attractive, lots of selfies etc. He’d liked her latest selfie from about a month ago, she’d liked one of his selfies from about the same time (his selfies are quite few and far between) these were the only pictures they’d liked of each other’s and they’re not following each other.

I asked him about it and he said he used to just message her about trainers because they both have a love of trainers. (She has lots of photos of them, he hasn’t ‘liked’ any of them though) They haven’t messaged each other in ages, she’d unfollowed him so he unfollowed her apparently.

The main thing I’m suspicious about is the fact that she was the first person who came up as a suggested contact to send something to. That to me suggests he messages her regularly and has done recently.
Do you think this is definite evidence that he has spoken to her recently? What suggested contacts come up in your phones if you click on the ‘share’ icon? Is it just recent contacts?

You accidentally looked?

Ignore the 'moral' police above....Mine comes up with people I've genuinely contacted and the app which I used to do so. One isn't the latest, but certainly in the last couple of weeks.

I would say he's had more contact than he's letting on to be honest. However, it could have been a single message for whatever reason, I might be wrong but I think this works off date rather than quantity

When I click share on android it sometimes come up with people that I haven't spoken to in years.
Unless he's given you more cause for suspicion, I'd probably just leave it.

Do you think this is definite evidence that he has spoken to her recently?

The only way you will get DEFINITE evidence is asking him directly. No one here knows what kind of phone it is, what make or model or configurations

On my phone it comes up with the people you share stuff with not the people you contact a lot.

If he doesn’t often share stuff and only did with her, she will be on the suggested list. Innocent explanation is that he shared pics of whatever their mutual interest is. There could be other explanations like it was an “accident” that he last shared with her.

Don't you want him to have female friends.

@Booboo24 @Thisthatandtheotherthing @LemonTT thank you, that’s really helpful

OK having read other people's posts please ignore mine! Mine only showed people I'd recently sent to, (even if only once) but that could just be because I'd messaged them recently and it must only give you so many suggestions. It sounds like it's nothing at all to worry about

Mine comes up with a. List of people to WhatsApp and it's all the people I have messaged today

Actually it's not just WhatsApp it's also iMessage. The symbol is different for those I iMessage and those I WhatsApp

I think you are on a hiding to nothing if you are worrying about him being merely in contact with another woman. It comes across as insecure on its own, but if it's together with other suspicious behaviour, it could add up to give an overall picture. On its own, it's insignificant.