Can't sleep when DH on night out

[noblegreenk]

DH has gone out tonight with friends. I'm already dreading going to bed because I know I won't be able to sleep until I know he's home safe. I'm not a clingy person and this drives me mad. He works away a lot and I don't have any issues sleeping then. Plus, because I have a sleep disorder, we don't even sleep in the same room most of the time. It's just when he's on nights out. He doesn't go out often but when he does he'll usually stay out until any time between 3-5am. I'm not concerned about cheating (before anyone jumps to that conclusion) but I get increasingly anxious until I hear his key in the door. Does anyone else feel the same or am I just a total weirdo? It drives me nuts! I just wish I could chill out and go to sleep.

I can't sleep if I know someone will be coming in later. It's like my body is anticipating it happening and won't relax.

Does anyone else feel the same or am I just a total weirdo? It drives me nuts! I just wish I could chill out and go to sleep.

Absolutely not. Half tempted to put my key in so he couldn't get back in actually

Nope, my husband is a grown adult, more than capable of getting himself home after a night out.

I’m single so can’t even imagine feeling this way!

I could have written this, OP. to be honest, my DB has got himself into trouble quite a few times through drinking to excess in the past so I think this is why I worry till he gets home. I just feel on edge till I know he’s ok. Like you I’m fine when he works away, because he won’t be drinking.

Good god no, I’m certainly not kept awake with worry until I’m settled that DH is back in the house safely after a night out. He’s a grown adult. I’m more likely to be unable to sleep due to rage in anticipation of the racket he makes getting into the house when he does get in.

If i think im going to get woken up by someone its hard to sleep.

No. When dh is out late for whatever reason then I just go to bed and sleep as normal. I wear a sleeping mask with built in headphones and listen to thunder and rain through it too so I don't actively listen out for him coming home either.

@PositiveLife yes this is the same for me

I used to have this. I used to worry about all sorts (not cheating) when we were young and prone to getting rather merry. He also worried about me too.

Yep! I feel your pain! You know they’re not up to anything untoward but it’s still a struggle!

OK then, so it seems to be mixed bag but I'm not feeling like a complete weirdo. He's actually just walked through the door 5 minutes ago, which is very unlike him! Two of his friends hadn't eaten, so they went for a curry and he decided to come home afterwards as he felt he couldn't drink on a full stomach. I do wish I didn't get like this and could just fall asleep though.