Constantly Arguing

[Molly78]

I have been married for three years and the first two years were great but this year we have nothing but argue. We argue over the silliest thing, whats for tea for instance, I refuse to faff around cooking different meals for everyone but he always insists on having something different to everyone else so I tell him to make his own and we argue.
We argue about the bed, he takes up the whole thing and I have a bad back which is made worse by him being selfish so he tells me to sleep on the couch.
We argue about the car, he says I'm scruffy and hes embarrassed to let people into our car as it always has my crap all over it like crisp packets and cans but Its my car anyway, not his.
We argue about weekends, he constantly needs to "sleep in" so we never get to do anything fun and then he kicked off because me and the kids coloured him in one morning as we were bored but we never spend time together.
I'm getting to wonder what the point in us being together is.

He sounds pretty selfish. Does he realise that marriage is about give and take, not just take, take, take?

Could you find a quiet moment, when things aren't tense, to say, 'can we think about what's going on here?', without blaming or taking the blame, just opening up the conversation? Probably best when children are in bed or not around.

Your getting a rough ride from this guy, you poor thing. Having said that, it sounds as though there might be something going on outside the home that's making him like this. I'm not usually one for saying 'try to understand etc., etc' but it was the needing to sleep in that sounds as though he may be a little depressed. Sleepiness is a symptom of depression.

If it isn't depression, then I think he needs some quite harsh treatment from you - no discussion re meals, car, and bed. You just do your thing until he's ready to discuss it without a row.

"Me and the kids coloured him in one morning"... what the...?

Oh, and do tidy up your car, it sounds nasty.