Pregnant on my own - help

[Mummytoqueens]

I have two children to my very recently ended marriage. It wasn’t a happy marriage and I wanted out.
We finally split two months ago, I’m now pregnant from a one night stand. The dad isn’t interested and wants me to ‘do the right thing and get rid!’
Which I was all for due to our situation (me just leaving my marriage etc) until I’ve began bleeding and cramping - I’ve realised I couldn’t go through with it. I’m absolutely beside myself, never felt so alone! I’m due a scan tomorrow but I’m so scared 😞

Sorry to hear op! Have you got any family
around? What are your current circumstances? Could you manage a 4
3rd as a lone parent

Seriously op I may sound harsh but you already have kids to care for and ties to a shitty ex. You dont need more.

I have a fantastic support network around me who thankfully help out with my current two.
@pinkbonbon I completely get it, I was in the same headspace until the bleeding has started and now I’m devastated and really want to keep it

@Mummytoqueens

I have a fantastic support network around me who thankfully help out with my current two. *@pinkbonbon* I completely get it, I was in the same headspace until the bleeding has started and now I’m devastated and really want to keep it

Think with your head, not your heart. Emotions + hormones can get carried away.

From what you've said about bleeding and cramping, it looks as though the problem will solve itself.

We all make mistakes but please ensure you have good contraception next time you consider having a relationship.

Good luck and let us know how you are.

A good support network is one thing at least.

But you already know this kids father doesn't want a child. Is it fair to bring a child into the world when you knew so early that this was the case? And do you really think he'll make your life easy if you keep it?

But if you are going to keep it, might be wise to keep the dads name off the birth certificate.

He really is a complete unknown factor op. You are taking a huge risk tying him into your life for the next 18 years.

I'm betting your ex will kick off to high heavens when he finds out you're pregers too?

I'd say to do whatever feels right normally...but you've had a tough time recently and are newly single. And you've had shock.

Still, theres plenty of time to think on things I suppose. Good luck with it, whatever you decide to do.

This must be such a stressful and emotional time for You. I would have a big think about what's right for You and Your Children. If You have a great support network and You want Your Baby You may regret not carrying on with Your pregnancy. I wouldn't let what Men think affect You. The Father of Your two Children has no right to comment and the Father of the Baby isn't involved. You have raised Children so You know if You want another You can do it. I understand its hard now and seems even harder being pregnant and with a newborn alone... but it's Your baby, your choice.