To end it because of this?

[Kangaroosfeet]

Seeing someone since July. I like him. However I'm a single parent to a young child and work full time. Ex is abusive and hardly has our child. Parents good but getting older. I hardly have any time to myself let alone have a relationship. I also don't want my child involved in the relationship so leaving time for us is hard. Is it just to much hassle??

I have reached out to the family support worker to see if she knows anyone who can babysit. the nursery may be able to aswell I know some staff do extra work at times. it just feels insurmountable

Have you thought about reciprocal babysitting with friends who are single parents?

None of them are single

Ask on your local Facebook page if anyone is available to babysit, there'll be local older teens who can study when your little one is in bed

Is that safe ?

I feel in relationships I don't have much to give lol. I'm always tired and it's hard work lol

When you say you don't want your child involved, do you mean ever as in you don't want a future living together and all of that, or just until the child is older, the relationship is more established etc? If the former, it sounds like it might be bad timing for a non-long term relationship (not saying necessarily just casual) if you're trying to compartmentalise rather than find a partner who is involved and supports you emotionally etc (even if that wasn't quite yet). Sounds like it could soon take the fun out of it so no, you're not unreasonable for ending the relationship due to circumstances. It's a bit shitty if part of that is the child's father slacking off. Could you have his responsibilities made official in court?

I dont want to go to court as I was told on here it wouldn't help. He doesn't appear to be over his ex anyway. He has a pic of her kids in his house

I don’t blame you op, I’m a single mum to 4 and I also never get any time to myself at all so can’t date, they never go anywhere as father not involved and they are with me daily so no time for a relationship, I refuse to introduce men to my children soon because of my situation so that’s not happening and I don’t want my kids to be too involved in any relationships I have anyway so it’s impossible for me.

Single mum of 4. I applaud you! I struggle with a half arsed father and 1 child!