OLD advice - how much chat?

[plasticpotato]

...between being asked for a date and the actual date?

Matched last week and agreed a date for this coming weekend but not much chat since being asked - is that normal/okay?

Hopeful bump 🙌🏻

I didn’t see the point in chatting for ages - you match exchange a polite message or two, meet as soon as you want! With me every match I had where we chatted for ages when we finally met was a disaster. Look nothing like pictures, no spark, nothing to talk about once in the same room! I always did best cutting out the chat and just meeting!

I would agree .. I chatted to someone daily for nearly 2 weeks .. built up this lovely image in my head of an almost perfect match , to finally meet up with someone who was 3 inches shorter and 7 years older than he had led me to believe
Now height and age are not dealbreakers for me - but lying is
So off I toddled after a coffee and never contacted him again
Def meet sooner rather than later

Yes - lying is an absolute dealbreaker at all stages.

Its that doldrum stage between matching and the date - totally agree about meeting quickly, it allows to much space to idealise and overthink! I'm impatient ;)

Not long now 😂 have you spoke at all ?
Would hate for you to go to all the usual trouble if he didn't actually plan to turn up . I have a routine for a first meet I sound so popular but actually just had 3 in 2 years lol
I like to do a full body exfoliation shave moisturise , face mask hair mask the lot
It's not actually for his benefit it would be for mine and I'd have no intention of taking my clothes off but somehow feeling like I'd made the effort seems like I'm in a date lol on a normal day I can't even guarantee I have on matching socks
Good luck ! Let us know how it goes

OK

Send a couple of messages then meet as soon as possible for a coffee.

In the meantime start up conversations with others, rinse and repeat.

I guess i'm the opposite, i like to chat a bit before meeting up. but that makes me feel more comfortable for the first meet up. A week is a long time to not chat at all then suddenly meet up, it would feel awkward to me, but then again I think you should do what makes you feel comfy. PPs say they prefer not to, but every time i didnt it just felt weird and like there wasn't a connection.

There's no normal. Whatever you both want. I quite like loads of flirty texting- I found it fun even if when we met there was no spark.

@sunnyzweibrucken a bit of chat is good I agree .. just not too long
You need to be sure he's not a very obvious psycho perv at least , or a Celtic fan

I'd want to keep in communication myself but not excessively. Definitely a message the day before to make sure it's still on.

Hah yes - he asked me out last week but not meeting this weekend - there's been a few bits and bobs of chat since he asked. I'm looking forward to it but trying so hard not to overthink and read into everything so much - I'm new to this game and just want it to be fun and not led by my anxieties 🤣