Anyone Live Apart but are together a long time .

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I am in this situation for the last year and it suits well. We live 40 minutes apart, both work full time mon-fri and have kids .
We met before lockdown so spent the majority of our free time together just cooking, walking and watching films. It was bliss even if it wasn't real life per se.
Our free weekends are the same so we plan for eow to spend together but see each other for a day or overnight in the alternate week .
We catch up with family and friends together and separate during our time together for short periods eg if there is a celebration or event which is perfect .
We have separate social events too which we try to schedule outside of our time together .
Is this sustainable ?
For those in an LAT relation ship or who have friends or family with these type of relationships, what are your experiences or observations ? Can it last ? I don't want him moving in while my kids are young... threeteens but we are looking at another 7 years before they have all flown the nest to Uni. We holiday together , speak every night on the phone , text throughout day and prioritise each other . We are very much compatible and in love but does it get stale or can it develop? Thanks

We've been together for three years and have one child apiece. We see each other on our child-free weekends (every two weeks) and we find it works so well. It's still really fresh, we make a big effort to do lovely things together. I particularly did not want to blend the families as it does mean conflict/different parenting styles/children who are strangers to each other suddenly having to live together. The only bore is that we would be much better off financially if we lived together but I think the positives outweigh the negatives. We are very much a couple and when we can, we visit each other's families. Neither of us is a step parent to the other child - we're just an adult who is in their life. Much less hassle that way! We live about 90 minutes apart. Lockdown 1 was incredibly hard though - we didn't get to see each other for three months - and not having your favourite person right there to offer support through that period was tough.

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