Struggling with relationship breakdown

[FanGirlX]

I'm really struggling, split with partner of 4 years 2 weeks ago and he hasn't contacted me since.

I'm worried about his mental health. He has been drinking too much. I also feel guilty - my ex before him was emotionally abusive and cheated on me, I took a lot of my anger out on recent ex. I don't think he will speak to me again, I sent him a long email trying to explain everything and I just got a message back saying "deleted".

You've split up.

Neither of you owe the other one any communication anymore.

For some they block the ex, never want to see them again, others stay friends and a whole lot of reactions in between.

But neither party can demand the other acts the way they want. You've split up.

You need to start to move on.

I miss him and I feel guilty about how I've behaved towards him. I just wanted him to know that, hence sending the email.

It wasn't all me though, he drinks a lot and has outbursts (although not violent).

The email was a way of me moving on.

He hasn't told his family yet - I'm friends with his sister. He also hasn't removed me from Facebook, yet.

We have split up before and got back together. This time feels different though.

So you've sent the email, that is part of your moving on, if he didn't want to read it there is nothing you can do about that.

So you've done your bit (in relation to the email) you have written it all out, got it out your system, again not up to you if he decides to delete it before or after reading it.

Plan a nice weekend and try not to think about him. As a starter step.

Leave him alone.

You took your anger at someone else out on him so I'm not surprised he wants nothing more to do with you.

If you're hoping he'll reconsoder at those point then the best thing you can do now is leave him alone!

I sent one email. It's hardly harassment. I came on here for support, not a telling off.