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Stay or go?!

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Fromheretothere21 · 15/09/2021 20:40

Posted here recently about being pretty low and had to step away to gather my thoughts. Been given medication to help with my mood and so on.

My ex and I had planned a break which we can still going on. He thinks it’s a terrible idea as it’s too painful because he still loves me (he ended it due to personality / lifestyle differences) and things ended recently. I want to go as I miss him but know it’s over so I am just happy to spend time in his company even though I know it’s probably not the best idea. We get on brilliantly and enjoy spending time together.

What should I do. There is no animosity at all on either side just sadness so I am hoping this will give me closure. I have no hope of reconciliation as he has made it very clear that’s not what he wants. I have accepted that.

I can’t do no contact just yet as I still deep down hope things could work but at the same time have completely accepted that he feels differently so I will take this as an opportunity to say goodbye once and for all.

Am I being very silly to even think that this is a good idea. It’s only for two nights and not too far so if it goes horribly wrong it’s easy to end the trip I suppose so there is that as an escape! He has said I can decide what I want to do and he will go along with it.

OP posts:
Fromheretothere21 · 15/09/2021 20:41

Sorry meant weekend break this weekend

OP posts:
jelly79 · 15/09/2021 20:51

I've been in your shoes and in the short term it's a desire to pretend things are all ok. But if they are not it just confuses things in the long term

Can you go with a friend?

Shoxfordian · 15/09/2021 21:12

Obviously don’t go
He’s your ex
Block him

Fromheretothere21 · 16/09/2021 15:59

Thank you, I have cancelled as I feel it is the wrong thing to do considering he has made it 100% clear he is against it.

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Shoxfordian · 17/09/2021 09:43

Do something else that you’ll enjoy this wkend
Be very kind to yourself
Don’t contact him Cake

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