Myth Buster

[Calibrate]

As a recently separated, overweight, size 24, 50 something I have realised that some ladies put themselves under a lot of unnecessary pressure to be waif like and young looking in the belief that that is what men want.

I am here to dispell that myth! While I have no intention of being in another relationship any time soon, if ever, it is refreshing to see how many perfectly nice men have asked me out or commented that I am lovely/beautiful - which I am most certainly not!!

These are not men who want one night stands or friends with benefits, but a genuine relationship.

Whatever your size, large or small, and whatever your age, there is someone out there who is longing to meet YOU, as you are, in all your natural glory.

Be yourself, be kind to yourself, you are beautiful

I have known a couple of these men for years, and am good friends with the ex wife of one of them who says he hasn't a bad bone in his body (they driffted apart), so they aren't abusers looking for their next vulnerable victim

What a lovely post!

And really interesting to read because my experience has been the opposite.

I'm a size 12, hourglass figure, few lumps and bumps here and there, breastfed for 3 years and 46 so no longer have the body of a 26 year old...

I've been single for 10 years and dated a lot in that time. In that time, I've not been smaller than a 10 or bigger than a 14 and yet I haven't dated a single man who hasn't at some point criticised my body or appearance in some way and I have received very few compliments along the way.

My face seems to be ok. My personality is fine. The biggest criticisms seem to he that I'm not young enough; not slim enough and not pretty enough. Not much I can do about that!

The last comment I had was that I can't help my breasts because of my age and the fact I breastfed for 3 years but I can help the fat... 🤷🏻‍♀️

@MyFluffyPinkBlanketIsSoSoft then those men were not worthy of you. Bet they weren't perfect specimens either!

Sometimes our special person comes along when we least expect it and in the strangest of places/circumstances. I'm sure yours will find you x

I hope so. I've largely given up hope now and am embracing fwbs. They're less likely to comment (although some still have) because they don't want the sex to cut off 🤷🏻‍♀️

I think most people are too busy worrying about their own insecurities and body hang ups to care about anyone elses tbh.