Help me escape

[Iwantout23]

I live with dp, dc and his family. They all gaslight and manipulate me. I'm trapped. When things are well in me and dps relationship it's all great. However when things get bad and dp gets horrible his parents have his back and always put him before me. They've told me they love me as their own daughter but constantly remind me that if I try to leave or breakup with dp I will have to "share dc" and not to get any ideas or they think I have no right to break up our family and am ruining me and dcs life.

Me and dps relationship is horribly toxic and I want out.

I have no job but abit of savings and currently on uc. No family or friends to turn to or take me in.

I want to be happy and give dc the healthy environment they deserve to grow up in but I feel imprisoned here and whenever I try to leave I get treated horrifically and they all know I have no where to go.

Help.

You need to get advice from a solicitor and you need to reach out to womens aidand explain what is going on

You need to make plans without them knowing if it’s that toxic . It would be much easier and hopefully others will have more advice.

Please call WA, as they can help with a refuge etc. How old are the DC?

You could maybe go into refuge with the kids and work out your next moves from there.

You don't need permission to leave , if you are not happy and want out .. then make plans to do so
Can you go to your family ?
Do you have friends who could support you ?
Do you have enough savings to pay a rental deposit until you can arrange UC under new circumstances?
Are you and DC safe there ?
Could the police or a refuge support help you if you are not ?
Keep talking here and you will find lots of useful information

Call WA and they will signpost you to a local domestic abuse organisation. They are run by experienced compassionate and knowledgeable staff who have seen all this before and can help you with every aspect of leaving

Your life doesn’t have be this way and you will be happier away from these anisotropic bullies

I dont think my situation is worthy of womans aid....I'm filling out a council housing form now. Do I put that I'm fleeing from domestic abuse? I dont know if being argumentative and having a temper is considered that

@Iwantout23

I think that you will find that your situation is abusive. Emotional abuse and coercive control are what you are experiencing. The fact that both he and his family threaten you about the DC, is very worrying.

I would call WA and just talk to them. They can advise you on housing etc and also fleeing safely.

I would speak to a Woman’s Refuge. They would be happy to offer advice, just because you’re not an urgent priority doesn’t mean you’re still not eligible for advice and help.

Have you posted before? You went to your car / they told you nobody would take you seriously at womens aid etc?

Either way, you need to get out.