I separated from my spouse of 30 years a couple of years ago, it was very amicable to begin with even when she very quickly met someone else. My Mum and her husband always had a very strained relationship with my ex.
About a year after separating I started a new relationship, the minute the ex found out it all changed. The ex filed for divorce, accused me of 30 years of abuse, rape, adultery, lied to CMS to try and get more money, faked house valuations, emailed my new partner saying we were still in a relationship, tried to turn friends and family against me, and just generally tried to make my life hell. This all started just before Christmas and has been continuous since.
I had explained what was going on to my Mum and her husband and was surprised when they didn’t seem to believe me. Things started to get weird when her husband went to a solicitor’s appointment with the ex to offer support. Then on Christmas Eve off they go to have a nice meal with the ex while I was at home preparing their Christmas Dinner, this lead to a few harsh words, and they agreed to step back from the ex while the divorce was ongoing. What I didn’t know was this hadn’t happened and they continued regular contact and generally support. This all culminated recently in them inviting and paying for the ex and to go on holiday with them.
I have been really upset and hurt, not only by the lack of support from them, and the support they have given to the ex, but especially the lies and the fact that when I have expressed my feelings they don’t care at all. I have had a terrible year and just wanted some support from my Mum, all this has just made me not want to see her ever again. So my question is, am I overreacting or do I just need to accept they should no longer be in my life? The worst bit of this is they live in a Granny Annex in my house, so I have to see them every day!