Starting OLD what should I expect?

[middlingmess]

I'm back OLD (tried it briefly but quickly found a FWB which has now fizzled out)
I find all the messaging a bit tedious - it's hard to find a shit when you know they are very likely to disappear or bore you.

I find so many guys never suggest meeting up. I'm all for suggesting it myself, but I have found if you chase them too much you end up having first dates which blokes who aren't that interested (not that I am at this point! But I'd like to go out and meet new people.

What should or shouldn't I be doing?

I think it’s best to go in knowing exactly what you want from it whether that’s causal sex, some fun dates or focused on finding The One.

I had a list of red flags meaning I’d unmatch immediately. Any sex talk, if they lived with their parents or ex (yep, it happens) etc.

Good luck! I found my OH on OLD.

Lots of patience, only match if you can really see yourself going on a date with them, stop talking to anyone that seems flaky or doesn't match your style of communication, dont chase, they should be equally interested, don't get desperate, take breaks from it if you need to.

Thanks for the advice.
Why it is so hard?
I'm thinking I'll give it a couple of months then duck out again for a bit for a break, it's such a stress!

I’ve said this on here previously, but I really enjoyed OLD and met my lovely DF.

I think a lot of it is down to attitude, if I’m honest. Take no shit. As in, absolutely none, whatsoever. If someone is flaky, rude, lewd or unpleasant in any way, unmatch them immediately. Don’t have conversations you’re not enjoying.

Slightly unusually for people on here, I refused to meet anyone I hadn’t chatted with (on the app, I don’t advise exchanging phone numbers before meeting, it makes weirdos considerably hard to get rid of) for a while beforehand. And by ‘chat’, I mean actual conversations - not small talk. Only for a week or two, at most, but enough to get a reasonable feel for and a decent amount of background info on the person I was meeting. It meant I could carefully select the people I would get on with. Lots of pleasant conversations and a few fun dates. I never really had a bad one.

Good luck!