Age Gap

[sparklingwater1]

Does an age gap work?

Been chatting to the loveliest guy online for a couple of weeks. He's very sweet and we stay just under an hour away from each other and hoping to meet soon just work schedules etc have got in the way. We chat every day and have FaceTimed a few times as well so he is totally legitimate for the record! He has no kids, I have 2 from a previous marriage if relevant. We're both financially independent, home owners, very good jobs with prospects and he literally ticks every box.

There is 12 years between us though. I'm mid thirties he's mid 40s. I've never had experience of this type of gap before and wondering people's experiences? As we're both a bit older I guess, I don't see it causing too many issues but I just wanted to ask incase there is anything obvious I'm missing.

Thanks! 😊

Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. People are individuals, not categories.

Meh, go for it.
It's not like you're 15 and he's 25.
Sometimes men that age aren't always actually able to adapt to kids/ not being your first priority, but apart from that- enjoy!

If you were both at similar life stages then I'd say that gap is insignificant at your ages.

However he's in his 40s and has never had kids, that is more of a hurdle if you're looking for something serious further down the line, depending on how old your kids are.

12 years is OK. As long as there's nothing in your gut that says he wants a younger woman because he's more able to 'control' them. Also, does he want kids and do you?

Thanks all.

He was in the army for years so never settled down properly with anyone and now works offshore so again he says he just never found the right person to settle down with and start a family. He has a nephew the same age as one of my children and he is very involved with him.

Me and ExDH split up almost 6 years now 50/50 co-parent with a decent parenting relationship so I have a lot of time to myself to take this as slow as necessary and he knows that cause of my kids. I'm very happy with my 2 but if the future held another one I would also be very happy with that too so it's not off the cards for me. Admittedly I haven't broached that subject as like I say we've only been chatting a relatively short space of time in the grand scheme of things.

@Keepitonthedownlow

I don't get that vibe about control at all, he has honestly been so lovely any time I've spoken to him. Very refreshing considering my online experience to date 😂🙈

If you get a good feeling them 12 years is not insurmountable, good luck.