Old flame really annoying me & doesn’t get the message

[Lolabray]

A long time ago I had a fling (it was clear he didn’t want a relationship with me) with someone who actually looking back acted like a prick and I knew I couldn’t trust him as I think he was sleeping around.. so I did one out of that and since that day I decided to delete and block and have had no contact nor do I want to.

Fast forward 8 or so years. This guy has over the years tried to ‘follow’ me on Facebook and Instagram.

When I see his follow request I still get angry and think why the hell are you contacting me/ trying to see what is going on in my life when clearly I don’t want anything to do with you.
It’s like the past resurfacing and seeing his face triggers me back to that time. I have never responded or added him, nor have I sent any message since that day.

Last night I’d been out and had a few drinks and noticed yet another friend request. I felt again annoyed.

I really want this guy to get the message. I’m thinking of sending a message but then I don’t want to communicate whatsoever. It’s quite annoying & he doesn’t seem to go away

Why don’t you block him altogether?

What’s the point of giving it so much headspace and creating a thread. Decline his request and block him on all SM platforms

Just block.

I do block but then he creates new accounts. And I know I shouldn’t worry about it I’m just getting annoyed after so long.

@Lolabray

I do block but then he creates new accounts. And I know I shouldn’t worry about it I’m just getting annoyed after so long.

AnaViaSalamanca

If you are blocking and he is making new accounts to contact you, that is harassment.

Be careful, harassment can escalate.

Sounds over the top, but of it is regular contact and it is emotionally bothering you, I would recommend thinking about contacting the non emergency police contact line.

If he is creating new accounts that is quite weird, I don't think you should contact him.

I know the feeling op, you just want to accept in order to tell them to fuck off! But you know thetr sort would only treat it as encouragement.

Theres these two guys from my past (one chatted to me on fb for a bit, about 10 years ago. Claimed to be from my school but I think that was a lie. Then got really 'I know where you live' kinda creepy) and the second, messaged me on fb about 5 years back but similarly got creepy. I blocked them both.

But I kid you not, every time I have joined tinder these past 5 years, the second guy has super liked me. And the first guy has twice now as well. It's so annoying as I just want to like them so I can tell them to sod off!

Pinkbonbon

I know the feeling op, you just want to accept in order to tell them to fuck off!

Seriously this man irritates me. it could be six months in between the messages and then I see his face and feel annoyed. What’s more I had been in a relationship for the past three years which he probably knows as he is a good friend of one of my female friends.

Do not give him the satisfaction of a response, because that's what he's looking for. Ignore and keep blocking.

Ohhhh. I would inform the police and report him to the social media platforms. Maybe too much of a harsh response, but this is stalking and can escalate like PP says. These people should understand “no means no”

AnaViaSalamanca

Ohhhh. I would inform the police and report him to the social media platforms.

Exactly.. he’s a weirdo craving attention. Luckily he doesn’t know where I now live as I have moved but still. It is a form of stalking

Tell your mutual friend you’ve contacted the police for advice on the issue as you feel harassed as stalking/his shit behaviour may be a police matter.