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Anyone felt similar before?

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anon12345678901 · 12/09/2021 18:46

So this is going to sound stupid, but do you think sometimes it's good for mental health to delete someone off social media?
I've known this guy for years, he messed me about for ages, then we became fuck buddies and he would be sending me lovely messages about how good I was (as a person) but that he wasn't the relationship type. He never had one over 2 months.
Anyway, it's flashed up today he has a girlfriend, lots of pictures of them together and I haven't spoken to him in a while. Can't lie, it's stings a bit, not sure why if I'm honest, but would it look really petty to just delete him from social media (not saying anything to him of course). Mostly as now it's made me think well it was more not a relationship with me was the real reason rather than not a relationship person.
I don't particularly fancy seeing things appear on my feed relating to it, we're not proper friends. I just don't want to look petty or like it bothers me.
Don't know if anyone can relate, I know I sound pretty pathetic as we were never in a relationship and just wanted to see if anyone experienced the same or similar I guess..

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DriftGames · 12/09/2021 18:48

I'd delete - depending how many friends he has and how often you post, he probably won't even notice given that you say you barely speak

EvenMoreFuriousVexation · 12/09/2021 18:49

Absolutely. He's not your real friend and it's making you unhappy.

If it's Facebook you could unfollow him - that way he won't know anythings changed, but you won't see his posts on your feed any more.

TheFoundations · 12/09/2021 18:52

The best person to delete from social media for mental health reasons is yourself.

anon12345678901 · 12/09/2021 18:52

Yeah, I think that's the right thing. It is Facebook and we have a few friends in common, I think it'll be good to delete that part of my life for good if that makes sense. I think I always hoped in some way that he would decide to give it a try, which is why I kept him on there. Thank you

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CanIHaveAHolidayPlease · 12/09/2021 19:00

I'd "unfollow" him rather than delete. You can't see his posts that way unless you actively look for them.
I wouldn't want to give his ego a boost by letting him know you're bothered by this.

Maybe I'm pathetic and have an unhealthy attitude Confused

anon12345678901 · 12/09/2021 19:23

Thats a good point, his ego is already pretty big!
I hope it didn't come across that I would think it was pathetic for anyone to do that at all, i just don't want to look like it's bothering me, when I guess it has but I think that's also my loneliness in play. So tired of being alone at times, being a mum, working, keeping fit etc, but not having that one person to come home too.
Thank you

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