I'm insecure and I'm hating it

[PoppyG1]

I want to try and understand the thing of (some) men looking at random women.
Ive come to terms with the porn phenomenon ie horny=watch porn and have a wank then get on with your day.
But I don't understand why some men in a commited relationship would want or need to follow random pretty women on social media, or watch their stories etc
What is it about?
As a woman I can see a good looking man and check him out in a fleeting thought way, I get that, we are all human.
I would follow celebs males on social media or tv personalities yes, but random good looking men, no I've honestly no interest.
Can anyone shed any light in why some people are interested in looking at absolutely random strangers on nights out, in bikinis etc whats the need?
I'm feeling quite insecure just now and I'd just love a logical insight that I can get my head around.
I don't have trust issues, there is never any fear of the person in question messaging these women or anything. I just don't know why there is a need to scroll down your feed with your friends and family posts and have random hot women in there to oggle?

I don't get it either. I've also sometimes been sent pics of muscular good looking guys in swimming shorts etc by female friends and I'm like, yeah and?

I was also added to a private facebook group by a female friend and people post pics of good looking guys. Didn't see the attraction personally.

Like you I can see if a person is good looking but it doesn't make me want to see more of them.

However, I am attracted by personality not looks and I am attracted to some actors or other celebs for example because of their personality. And that makes me want to follow them.

This is you trying to find an explanation, so that you can forgive somebody for doing something that crosses your boundaries.

If your partner is doing something that makes you feel shit, tell him. If he keeps doing it, then he values that behaviour higher than he values your happiness. If you value your happiness and this happens, you have to leave, because it's your responsibility to put yourself in places/with people who make you happy.

You don't have to find a way to make yourself like the fact that your partner is taking specific actions in order that he can look at other women in bikinis. Why do you want to?