My half sister came back into my life around March of this year. We never had a relationship before this, I'd met her once or twice and spoke briefly at our Dad's funeral. I was kind of blindsided by the contact out of the blue and we arranged to meet.
She was very emotional and tearful and attached from the word go. I was more curious, and willing to let things build.
She has had quite a lot of recent trauma, and I feel that's what led her to seek me out. She told me she was never going to "let me go" again.
I'm introverted by nature. I have my little family around me, and I'm the type that sees friends very irregularly. She wanted to call and meet every few days.
She's nice, pleasant, very open, heart on her sleeve, but she is exceptionally needy and only wants to talk about herself.
She doesn't sense my discomfort when she's screaming in public to strangers "THIS IS MY BABY SISTER" and manhandling me constantly.
Basically she is far too full on and hasn't taken my personality into account at all.
She went off the radar for a few weeks as she was working away, and in that time I realised that I was hoping she would never contact me again, as bad as that sounds.
But she has. She has booked a table at a fancy restaurant and told me to get dolled up and put on my highest heels. I have no heels. I don't do dolled up. She will screech across the restaurant.
My friends have told me to meet her and have a few drinks and a proper chat, see how it goes. I feel like I'm stringing her along.
I really feel terrible for not warming to her the way she has taken to me. She video calls me and sobs over me. I think she's using me as some sort of crutch.
I never expected this kind of intensity and I'm really, really questioning whether I want her in my life.
Glad to get that off my chest.