I want to leave my husband

[Mollie5]

Hello Mumsnet my heart is broken. I've realised that I need to leave my husband. We are always arguing with eachother and it is really affecting my mental health.

We have a house that we both own and 1 child together. I can't believe it has come to this, I thought we would have worked things out but it's too much for me to handle. He constantly calls me names, says I'm useless and lazy. I want to leave him but I have nowhere to go, my family live on the opposite side of the country. I am so hurt right now and confused. I just don't know how to go about leaving him.

Women's Aid might be a very good place to start.

As everyone says on here "get your ducks in a row"

Organize your finances etc

Someone will come along that can fully explain this!

There are some good threads in relationships about leaving, copies of bank statements, pay slips, any incriminating texts, set up separate email etc. Play the long game is good advice, I think.

Can you move in with your family? What’s your financial situation like?

Before you leave or do anything radical, speak to a solicitor.

They generally advise not to leave the home as it can make it harder when it comes to the financial settlements, I think? And if you need to force a sale of the house, he can make viewings difficult if he's the only one living there. You'd eventually get your share but it might get dragged out.

So I think that's your first move - get an appointment and chat through your options. Some solicitors do a free half-hour initial consultation, and don't necessarily go with the first one you speak to unless you feel confident with them.

If it's really unbearable or you're in danger, then obviously leave asap anyway you can.