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When to say I love you?

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troobleflooble · 09/09/2021 13:50

I realise this sounds a bit ridiculous as no one can ever tell you when is the right time!

I'm just trying to get some perspective because I'm an emotional sort of person who 'wears my heart on my sleeve' and am very open and honest about how I feel and why. I realise not everyone is like this though.

I'm in a new relationship (about 2 months) and it's all going really well. I'm nervous and wary because I've had a lot of bad relationships in the past and am on the look out for red flags but I really can't see any with this new guy (so far 😁)

He's had a few relationships but he says he's only ever said 'I love you' to one other person, who he was in a LTR with (over 7yrs). I feel ready to say it now, in fact I've almost accidentally blurted it out in the heat of the moment but this is obviously not something he says lightly (neither do I tbf) so there's a very good chance he won't say it back. But hiding how I really feel isn't my style!

Do I say it, knowing he probably won't say it back yet, or should I wait?

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troobleflooble · 10/09/2021 00:47

@SeaShoreGalore I think you are right in that people have different expectations regarding 'the phrase'. Although tbh I mean it in both ways you've described! I've met his family, they like me, and so far he's taken all of my complicated family situation in his stride. That really makes me feel like we're in this for the long haul.

He's an amazing person 😊

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