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Is my co worker flirting with me or is he just being playful

24 replies

Brighteststar98 · 08/09/2021 23:07

I work alongside this man and we’re always play fighting, he lets me punch him all the time and he always finds a way to touch me in some way, not in a sexual way but like he will lean on me, we will always lock eyes, when we’re walking he will stop infront of me in order for me to push him to carry on walking etc.. what do you guys think bc I do fancy him Abit and I don’t want to do anything if he’s not on the same page as me

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AnneLovesGilbert · 08/09/2021 23:08

Are you 10?

Stop punching people.

EvenMoreFuriousVexation · 08/09/2021 23:09

If you're both teens then yeah it's fairly standard. Just ask him out.

MorriseysGladioli · 08/09/2021 23:10

Has this been posted in various formats over a period of time?
I usually find that men tend to push for what they want, so I'm sure if he's interested he will say.

HoppingHamster · 08/09/2021 23:11

how old are you, are you in relationships, what do you do, would anyone care if you got together?

No guy does that if they don’t fancy someone. So it’s over to you

MorriseysGladioli · 08/09/2021 23:11

It's nauseating working with people who behave like that, btw.

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Brighteststar98 · 08/09/2021 23:16

@MorriseysGladioli I’m new to the company and I’ve noticed most of the staff here joke around with each other but this particular guy only does it to me..

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MsDogLady · 08/09/2021 23:30

I too am wondering if the 2 of you have partners.

dickiedavisthunderthighs · 08/09/2021 23:31

Unless your job is children's tv presenter/clown/WWF wrestler I'd pack it in for the sake of your poor colleagues.

I'd also be wondering if he's worked his way round all the new girls and now it's your turn.

DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult · 08/09/2021 23:33

Ask him on a date and then you'll know for sure.

Please stop subjecting your coworkers to watching this 'flirting' as well, it's uncomfortable and unprofessional.

Wineat5isfine · 08/09/2021 23:52

“He lets me punch him”

Why would you do that??

DixonD · 09/09/2021 00:04

@EvenMoreFuriousVexation

If you're both teens then yeah it's fairly standard. Just ask him out.

Or get your friend too!

DixonD · 09/09/2021 00:04

*to!!

Kuachui · 09/09/2021 01:28

This reminds me of when I was like 16 😌 fond memories.

Does sound like he's into you regardless of how immature it all sounds

Notapheasantplucker · 09/09/2021 02:02

You both sound about 12, sort it out.

GammyLeg · 09/09/2021 02:07

If you like him, just ask him for a drink, as mates, and see where it goes. And please, for the love of god, keep the touching and punching (if that's what you're into) for private non-work times.

Aquamarine1029 · 09/09/2021 03:23

Why are you punching and pushing a co-worker? Are you honestly this immature and unprofessional? You aren't responsible for his behaviour, but you sure as hell are responsible for your own.

Kanaloa · 09/09/2021 03:36

What is it you do for a job? Can’t imagine how play fighting/pushing each other and locking eyes would fit in my job.

Ask him for a drink if you’re both single and you fancy him.

SleepQuest33 · 09/09/2021 03:49

Sounds to me like he’s interested in you! I’m no expert though so maybe time to send him a signal that you like him see how he responds.

Sampafie · 09/09/2021 04:36

Have you considered the consequences of what working with him will be like if he
A)doesnt like you back
B) you two try to have a relationship but then it doesnt work out?

sadie9 · 09/09/2021 05:40

Stop your physical interactions with him. It could end up in you losing your job or otherwise looking very foolish or worse.
You may have boundary issues already if you are fake punching a guy in a new job. Maybe he is encroaching on your physical boundaries but you are not seeing that's what it is. This could be sexual harrassment of you by him that you are misreading as him being romantically interested in you.
You need to tell him to stop messing with you. That thing of standing in front of you to make you bump into him is controlling you in a way. Do you see that?

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Brighteststar98 · 09/09/2021 09:36

I will stop the physical interactions.

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Iooselipssinkships · 09/09/2021 11:55

That's a bit OTT @sadie9 it just sounds like daft flirting albeit a bit immature.

Bluntness100 · 09/09/2021 11:58

How old are you? What do you mean he lets you punch him? That’s some odd flirting you’re engaging in

Anyway no one can know if he fancies you or is just flattered as it’s so obvious you fancy him. Ask him out for a drink. See what he says.

Bluntness100 · 09/09/2021 11:58

@sadie9

Stop your physical interactions with him. It could end up in you losing your job or otherwise looking very foolish or worse. You may have boundary issues already if you are fake punching a guy in a new job. Maybe he is encroaching on your physical boundaries but you are not seeing that's what it is. This could be sexual harrassment of you by him that you are misreading as him being romantically interested in you. You need to tell him to stop messing with you. That thing of standing in front of you to make you bump into him is controlling you in a way. Do you see that?

That’s a bit weird and a bit much, he’s clearly not sexually harassing her.

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