I have a friend let’s call her A. I became friends with A whilst I was getting divorced and I was a single parent. I was struggling to get my eldest to an activity and both A and I went to the same church.
She was going right by my house to the same activity with her youngest. In ‘return’ I looked after her dog alongside mine when she went on holiday etc I never went away really so all fine. I helped her eldest when they were struggling with a subject at gcse by giving them free tutoring in total for about 15-20 hours and by then my eldest had stopped needing a lift as I had an arrangement with another parent I took them and she picked them up (a neighbour). Friend A is married and I’m a single parent and money was tight but she would ask me to find jobs for her eldest children as they wanted to do paid work and we lived very rurally. They used to do some gardening etc for me and she wanted me to employ her husband for diy jobs which I did but paid ‘over the odds’ often she would say ‘husbands is really low and not any work can he fix your gate etc ‘ but he was a bugger to pin down for a price and often say £50 and then tell me £100 etc because something was more expensive. I felt used and was stepping back from the friendship before March 2020. As financially I couldn’t afford it.
3 years ago we brought an item for £50 that we going to rent out for money, she lent it 4 times to friends for no cost, as a gift, then for 3 years it sat in my garage. A year ago I sold my house and moved away and asked her to collect the item and explained I was moving. I moved and the house was sold and stuff went in storage and is now out of storage and with me. From December 2020 to June 2021 I have heard nothing from her. No phone calls nothing .
Recently I have had a flurry of messages saying ‘have you forgotten you still have the joint item of mine?’ I have booked for it to be loaned in October 2022 etc for a while whilst moving we had no internet (about 8 weeks as we moved into rented briefly and then moved again) so I didn’t pick these up (social media messages as private) but they became more and more abusive. Name calling. You haven’t answered my messages etc so I now have 15 social media message and no texts phone calls or emails.
Choices send her the £50 by letter and say ‘ as you know I’ve relocated enclosed is £50 or if you want the item instead please come to collect it - I’m hundreds of miles away , block and delete,
Or something else
Please don’t nitpick the background apart it’s just for reference. I really liked her but don’t feel she is a friend anymore. I felt I was used whilst it suited her, ignored in lockdown etc