How can anyone

[Shamsa03]

Not enjoy being single? I've had bad relationships last one was a narcissist got rid of him because I used the robot method.
I realised I'm not cut out for relationships and I've never found anyone I've clicked with.
I've been single for years and it's such a relief.
I'm always reading threads on here and it's clarification for me that I've made the right choice not to get into a relationship again.

How can anyone not enjoy being single
Peace and quiet
Don't have to share the remote
Go out when you want without having to discuss it with another person
A bed to yourself
Eat when and what you want
Many pros as a single person to list.

I know some people in real who feel sorry for single people and I can't imagine why I feel for people in relationships/marriages, I know some are happy but on here no one seems happy re : abuse, Dp acting like a arse amongst many many threads that I'm always thinking please leave, if only you knew how good it is

I think there’s pros and cons to both. It’s nice to have a partner in life, but with that comes compromises and sacrifices (and arguments!) sometimes. Being single you don’t have to compromise or put up with any crap but then you also don’t have that one person to enjoy life with. Having had time single and in relationships I’m not sure if there’s one better than the other. I guess it’s what suits a person at the time.

Far, far better to be single than miserable in a relationship

Couldn't agree more. I find even a relatively comfortable relationship more trouble than its worth tbh. If I meet the perfect person for me and get full on butterflies and he is a good, kind, caring and entirely sane human being, who wants a life like I want then maybe I'd consider a relationship again - but I think I'd be very, very lucky to find all that. And I feel no need to get into a relationship otherwise. Pets and friends are plenty good enough company as is.

I'm looking forward to being single and not having to consider another person in a huge way. I still want to see a man and have all the good things but on my time and in my way (arms length)

I believe there are those that enjoy the peace and quiet and the ability to please themselves and are happy in their own company, and those that are a scared rabbit in the headlights when expected to do the same .
I am married , but quite happy to spend the day/s alone when it happens. I can occupy myself alone and happy in my own company.
I do wonder if being an only child helped as I've never been used to a loud , frenetic , life.

I think there's a big difference depending on age. I'm glad I was married by 26 and stuck with it to have DC and build a career and some wealth - but I'm very happy now at 58 to be single in order to enjoy the fruits of my labours! I am responsible only for my own mistakes, I please myself, I delight in my dog, my adult DC, my property and my work. I have a part-time partner for sex and emotional support, and loads of friends. I often find mixing with married friends quite suffocating - so many compromises they make! - but there are two couples I know with fabulous, 40 year relationships. That's the absolute best, but few people attain it.

I think you wake up when you get older and realise the world isn't all unicorns and rainbows.
I do not tolerate them anymore just because it's meant to be 'normal' to be in a relationship/married.
I love being single and it's going to stay that way.

I love not having a third child!

@Whatwouldscullydo

I love not having a third child!

Absolutely this ^^

I can see why people want a partner at various life stages but I know an awful lot of 50 plus women who prefer it on their own with a couple of big provisos— they are ok for money and have good friends or good relationships with adult offspring

I'm separating from H and cannot bloody wait to be single! Friends have mentioned 'finding me a new man' and I cannot stress enough how much I don't want one. No offence to men. I am so looking forward to being alone.

My widowed mother hates being single- but dad waited on her hand foot and finger. Basically she's a Princess.

I think life can be a bit too intense when I'm single, as in I have to make all the decisions and choices and am responsible for the house, and I get to experience the high and lows, alone. But I've been in relationships much more of my adult life than I've been single. And I'm not single by choice but by bereavement

Having said that I do enjoy my own company a lot, I always have done, and even when happily married, we were both strong independent women with our own different interests and friends, as well as mutual interests and friends.

Also- I truly cannot imagine wanting to be in a heterosexual marriage/ relationship! I do not see many equal ones. I do not think many men are emotionally intelligent or well rounded enough to stand with most women!

Good relationships are better than being unhappily single.

Happily or unhappily single is better than a bad relationship.

Also- I truly cannot imagine wanting to be in a heterosexual marriage/ relationship! I do not see many equal ones. I do not think many men are emotionally intelligent or well rounded enough to stand with most women!

The second you have kids you realise just how unequal they are