Feeling sick with stress. DH has become emotionally "flat" and grumpy over the last decade. Begged him to ask GP about depression but he got annoyed at the suggestion. It got to the point where it just felt like he was in a gloomy or distant mood with no ideas a lot.
6 years ago he stopped making an effort to make me climax. 5 years ago (ish) I begged him to go to marriage counselling but he came up with excuses - cost, who'd mind DS. Another year goes by and he's heading to bed just kissing me on the forehead, no chat, no fun. We never shared a bedroom as he kicks in his sleep but previously this didn't stop us having sex.
Spent another year crying over the utter loneliness in my marriage. Last year he finally realised he had depression, got help, doing better on ADS, but still no sex. It's been about 2 years and I've got to the point where I just won't make a move, he needs to.
Met a man who works in an area I have a hobby in. We have both gradually fallen for each other as we have many things in common. Nothing has been said, nothing acknowledged, but I can see he is honourable and wouldn't do anything unless I gave him the nod. Last week he and I talked, and we realised we both wanted the same kind of rest of life, I actually was weak at the knees when I was in his company.
Dh suddenly wants to see can we rebuild our relationship. He's been in fortnightly counselling for a year but I think I'm his security blanket. I'm less sure I make him happy. He just doesn't want to let me go either. I'm very upset and all over the place...