Oh man. What to do. I am so so pissed off this time. He's not always like this but when he is, it's ALWAYS a massive mess because he can't organise anything but won't accept this!
I've been waiting for DH to build a stud wall. For months. All he did was buy the expensive big saw and feel like he'd done enough towards it for now. I said I'd employ someone. Oh no, he was going to do it. All weekend, he's been fucking around, but today he decided he would crack on when I was out with the kids. Naturally granting himself half hour breaks after every pieces of wood he drilled into place, I've got a frame built in 8 hours which has taken 11 pieces of wood.
BUT!!! My massive kitchen cupboards have been dragged away from the wall and discarded in the middle of the kitchen. My clean laundry has been whisked off the table onto the floor and everything from the shelves that came off the old wall has been shoved onto the table, breaking several pieces, including the centrepiece from our wedding. Also, a massive mishmash of tools is mixed in with it all- Stanley blades, screws, you name it. Not just there. All over the kitchen floor, all over the cooker! And I can't even get to the cooker now, there are massive sheets of plasterboard in front of it. He's cut all this wood in the utility room with his fancy saw which is still in the middle of the floor. All the surfaces are covered in sawdust, all the kids clean uniforms for tomorrow are covered in sawdust. And when he tried wedging a piece of plasterboard into a small section just after we got home and broke it, he turned around and savagely bollocked DD for "pissing him off"
and making him break it! Actually screamed at her to fuck off out of his sight!! I was livid. I still am. She was in bits over it- all she wanted was to know if she could get a biscuit from the cupboard! Our other DC were staring at him in shock and I was just boiling more and more with rage when I looked at the absolute fucking destruction.
Because I told him he was way out of line and needed to apologise immediately to DD and clear some of this away so we could move safely around, he totally lost all enthusiasm for the wall, and has left EVERYTHING and sulked off to bed. Said he's overwhelmed and needs to clear his head. I said he broke precious things by slinging them to one side, threw all the laundry down on the floor, messed up the kids school uniforms and has left me with an absolutely impossible situation to manage tomorrow when I need to get three children and their lunches ready for school! He snapped "oh, so there's no 'well done' for me then?"
No there damn well isn't!!! Well done for refusing to let me hire someone, considering absolutely nobody in the house, making our home unliveable, upsetting DD, upsetting me, refusing to take ownership of it and leaving a huge fucking mess!!!!! Well done for getting round to hammering eleven bits of wood into a frame after six fucking months of having wood waiting for it.
I'm so angry. So, so angry and so fucked off with him and his inconsiderate ways and how he thinks he can just say "I'm overwhelmed" and he gets to completely bin off anything he doesn't want to do.