Bumping into ex

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Feeling a bit off kilter since bumping into a significant ex earlier on. It's not the first time I've seen him, each time I feel the same, unsettled. Just looking into his face feels so familiar, god it's hard to explain.

Anyone else ever feel like this ?

Yes years and years ago I had an ex with parted on bad terms but about 4 years later I randomly bumped into him, it was unsettling because I wasn't expecting it/ I always had some emotion still there for him but it was a good brief meeting, a hello and a quick catch up then that's it I never saw him again that was about 15 years ago but I'm glad I had that opportunity, a bit of closure that there was no bad feelings.

Yes. I feel the same and it's a rotten feeling.

Nope, always an ex for a reason or 100

Glad it's not just me. The breakup was horrendous and it took me a long time to get over, maybe that's part of it. He was my first grown up love and we were together 10 years.

Am annoyed with myself feeling like this 😡

Yep, it's often the way, but the longer he's an ex and the more you move on, the less you will care when you bump into him. In future.

I gotcha OP. Same happened to me at weekend and he was full of lovely compliments about me both now and 25 years ago. It's totally shaken me and I'm very unsettled. I was catapulted back to being 19 again and that summer.... argh. X

I would purposely avoid places such as certain supermarkets to avoid an ex. She made a complete mug of me and took advantage of my giving nature.
I was really angry and found it hard not to open my mouth. For everyone's sake it was best I didn't see her.
I encountered her once in a shop whilst out with my partner she looked and then dashed down another part of the shop and out the door. She's moved miles away now which is a blessing.

It's bizarre. I saw my longtime ex a couple of months ago after not seeing him for two years. I was shocked that I felt as you described (and still feel, tbh) and am pretty cross with myself as he treated me really badly. I have a lovely OH who is a better man in every way but he admitted he's still attracted to me and it bothers me that I care. We're in the same social circle so I can't avoid him entirely, unfortunately. Urgh.

My ex and I were in the same running club. We broke up earlier this year and I haven't been back. I've heard he has. He ended it with me in a cold and heartless way after 5 years. I bumped into him once since, but that was March, and found it unsettling. I really don't want to see him, hence my not returning. I thought he might have made some gesture re the club, but he didn't. I have a lot of friends in the area where he lives and I've been avoiding going there.

Definitely not just me then. I feel much better a few days down the line, still unsettled but I'll be fine. Bloody ex's !!