I’m particularly wondering about advice on evidencing nasty behavior which is not physically abusive. Lots of verbal abuse. Does this mean anything in terms of child custody if that were being considered in the future? How would I evidence it, if I wanted to keep records ( if that’s a worthwhile thing to do)? If it’s not worthwhile, in terms of custody, then I wouldn’t bother. The verbal abuse is to me, not to the children. However they are exposed to it. It’s not constant but arises regularly, maybe every couple of weeks. Then gets v nasty v quickly. Then it settles down for another couple weeks only to reappear again. Refuses couples counseling of any sort. Thank you for any advice.