Am i over reacting or not?

[SADIESUEyou]

DH qnd i married 33 yrs. Tonight something on telly about marriage prompted me to ask him " if you could rewind time would you marry me again?" DH refused to answer saying that it was a 'loaded question?" He claimed that i wouldn't believe him if he said yes an obviously couldn't say no! I am in shock as to me an immediate answer of yeswould have been accepted but this faffing about concerns me?I have no clue why he thinks i wouldn't believe him and i now believe he made this up so as he didn't have to answer honestly? What do you think? The relationship has had its ups and downs but after such a long time i thought he wouldn't hesitate to answer this

How horrible and upsetting. My DH always says he would marry me again even after 25 years. This must be a shock and make you re-evaluate your relationship. I'm sorry OP.

Did you marry young? I did and regretted it even before things went bad between us. I looked at others who had waited and envied them so much.

If I could rewind time I wouldn't marry or live with anyone. No real complaints about my marriage, I just wouldn't have done it if I knew then what I know now.

@SADIESUEyou

Over reacting . He gave a very male answer to a question he saw as silly.

I understand why you are feeling upset but he wasn't wrong was he, about it being a loaded question. Any answer would, and has, upset you.

Well, he was right - you're upset!

I love my DH to bits and we're happy now but it's been a rough ride (we married at 20 and 22). I've put up with crap that I wouldn't tolerate now so if I could rewind time and with the benefit of hindsight my answer would have been no.

To be fair, knowing what you know now about him, would you still have gone out with him and married him?

I wouldn't have married either one of mine. I settled.

You shouldn't have asked.
Just let it go, honestly, for sanity's sake.

Another example of why you shouldn't ask a question if you don't want to hear the answer.

Thh, I have two children. I love them but if could go back and live life again, I wouldn't have had them for many reasons that are nothing to do.with how I feel about them.

But it is a loaded question.
I'm not sure what you were trying to achieve

I'm very, very sure that my husband would say yes to that question.

However I wouldn't ask a question like that because it's unnecessary and as others have said, it's too loaded.

To be fair it was a loaded question and let’s face it you were only after one answer! Stupid questions get stupid answers!

I completely disagree that it's a loaded question. At least in a marriage where there is love. It was an opportunity for a simple 'of course I would darling' and to make things into a lovely evening. Instead, he gave an answer which quite clearly was cruel and meant, at best, 'maybe not'.

Showing that the marriage is on the rocks.
Which probably came as a massive surprise to op by the sounds of things.

Personally, for me, would probably mean it's time to end the marriage.

It is a loaded question... All those types of questions are, often no matter what is said. It often starts as a simple question, and once answered it then needs to be clarified/ elaborated on/ scrutinised and often ends up in a huge fallout.

The moral of the story, don't ask questions that you may not like the answers to. It's never a happy ending.

I don't know, I think unless it was a no, then a yes should have been pretty easy to say. My parents have been married for longer and they're definitely a yes