Is it time to walk away?

[NickyS94]

I’ve been with my partner for 10 years, since we were 16 but recently I just feel trapped. He can be controlling and can go from the nicest man in the world to the nastiest. I’m constantly being made feel like every argument is my fault even when he was the one that started it but ending it and walking away feels like the hardest thing in the world.

I just feel like I’m living a lie, like the happy face I put on to everyone else is just to keep him happy because I can’t be bothered with the arguments of being truthful.

Yes. It is. Yiu have a (hopefully) long life ahead of you, without his bullshit.

Leave and be happy x

Thanks, just feels like leaving would be so difficult as we have 2 kids.

If it doesn’t feel right then end it. Enjoy your youth properly rather than spend it with someone picking fights and making you unhappy x

HiScore that’s exactly how I feel. Like I’m missing out on the best years of my life by staying in a relationship that really isn’t making me happy out of fear of what happens when I end it. I don’t ever think he would become physical but I do believe he could be argumentative and emotionally hurtful.

Life is too short for this. End it. In awhile you will wish you ended it sooner, don't delay

How old are your kids and what’s his relationship like with them? Has he always been nasty like this?

I'm an old bugger (which the following will illustrate).

I was listening to the song Young hearts run free. The opening lines are

"What's the use of sharing your one and only life
Only to end up another lost and lonely wife".

Leave him. It will be hard, I chose to be a single parent, rather than live a life I didn't want so I know what I'm advising you to do. Decades later, I don't regret it for a moment.

Thanks, just feels like leaving would be so difficult as we have 2 kids.

More difficult than staying another ten years?

Kids need happy parents, you're their inspiration and role models. No point staying together for the kids if that makes either/both of you unhappy. They key (holy grail) is to split amicably.