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Friend and Parents Meeting, WWYD?

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LaTomatina · 04/09/2021 16:51

My good friend is going through a tough time. Her husband has been cheating, she knows about it and has talked to me a lot about it over the last few months. They are still living together, sort of, although she knows her husband is still involved with the OW. She has confronted OW more than once.

My friend, the OW all have oldest children in the same year at the same school. Until this year, my friend's child and my child were always in the same class, OW's child is in another class (although is friends with my child). This year the classes have been merged and OW's child is in the same class as mine and my friend's children. I know because my child (who obviously knows nothing about all this parent stuff) was happy to tell me their friend has joined the class.

Parent's night is on Wednesday. I'm pretty sure my friend doesn't know that she is likely to see the OW there. I feel like I should tip her off in advance, maybe the day before (don't want to tell her now and spoil her weekend) so it doesn't blindside her on the evening. My DH says I shouldn't say anything, it would just be stirring the shit.

WWYD?

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drspouse · 04/09/2021 16:52

I would tell her.

HirplesWithHaggis · 04/09/2021 16:57

Agree, tell her.

BingBongToTheMoon · 04/09/2021 16:59

Oh God definitely tell her.
She needs to prepare herself.

LaTomatina · 04/09/2021 17:07

Thanks. I thought so too. But Dh's reaction made me doubt myself. I will tell her after the weekend (I know she's doing something nice by herself with her children and I don't want to interrupt that with this information, she deserves to enjoy anything she possibly can right now).

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billy1966 · 04/09/2021 18:08

Absolutely give her the heads up.

No question.

tintodeverano2 · 04/09/2021 18:16

Why wouldn't she know that she would be there?

LaTomatina · 04/09/2021 18:38

tintodeverano2 because she doesn't yet know OW's is in the same class as her child this year (new term only started 3 days ago).

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