My family and I moved to a small village a few months ago. I have old friends and family not too far away, but we knew nobody in the actual village when we came here.
Before we moved I put a post on a local group which another mum replied to. There was then really sporadic contact between us by text until we had moved (amongst lockdowns) and I didn't think I would hear from her again (just thought she may be busy/flaky) until our husbands bumped into each other and got on well. Subsequently we were invited round theirs and seemed to have a lovely time, we have a DC the same age which I thought was great as we were so new to the area and I'd realised there weren't so many other young DC living here.
After that she arranged a night with some other mums our age (with older kids) which also was lovely, in the meantime our DHs were meeting and talking regularly, and we had a handful of text exchanges 1:1 until the ghosting seemed to start - would read messages then just not reply for over a week and then not replying at all, including me asking if they were free for a play date (as we had talked about when we met) and even an invite to my DC party.
It upset me quite a lot (left out at school feeling) given we are new to the area, I felt really unwelcome and wondered if I'd said/done something offensive - but I thought there's no point worrying about it and moved on. Then recently I was invited to join a group of all mums locally, by her, and she's pretty active on that group, even answering my questions on there.
I can't make sense of it! I feel a bit crap again as preferred to have moved on but of course I want to connect with other mums here. I have one DC and she has 3, I've even thought if she's worried I'm going to try latch on because I have a single child which is utterly not my style.
Anyone else had similar experience - talking of plans to meet then being ghosted but then part of a group chat and included that way?! She's still not replied to my last 1:1 message sent a good 6 weeks ago 😆