To think you can be single & happy?

[bonfireheart]

I am divorced. I have a great job, travel lots, no money or health worries, amazing family, friends...I am happy and comfortable, I am not looking for a boyfriend at all, last relationship broke up 5 years, have a FWB situation that works really well as he gives me lots of space. I can't reiterate enough that I am happy and happily single. Yet I have an old friend who keeps messaging me saying how sad he feels thinking about me and how sad/lonely it must be being single. I know he and his wife are having issues, she pretty much told me she's not fussed if they break up. I tell him I am happy. Then a few weeks later he will be like "oh I was thinking of you and feel so sad to think how alone you are". I don't get it....am I weird?! Or do people genuinely think you cannot be happy being single?

He isnt your friend. Seriously people like that only want to bring others down. Get rid. Your life sounds awesome btw.

He's feeling sorry for himself and wants a shag to make himself feel better, but he's dressing it up as doing you a favour by trying to make you question your happiness with the single life. And here you are asking if you can be happy on your own, just like he hoped you would.
Of course you can be happy single. I've been happily married a long time but my son is not bothered about settling down. He's following his dreams which would be impossible if he was in a relationship.

You only get one life. Live it your way and don't let this self serving 'friend' spoil it for you.

He's definitely hoping you'll say "oh my god, you're so right. I'm so lonely, please come and rescue me from my misery". Frankly, he sounds like a dick.

I do think many people are happy staying single. Some who have had long term relationships are eventually glad they decided to stay single and make the most of their lives, others never really wanted the commitment. Some would have liked children, others not fussed or else accepted childlessness.

There are many ways to be fulfilled and we are individuals.

Single women (w/o children) are statistically the happiest. Dont fall for the BS, you pinpointed the issue perfectly. This is a very clear case of Misery needing company. Hes frustrated in his dead marriage and wants you to be in the same positon

He wants to rustle your knickers. He's softening you up so you'll be receptive to his advances.

Definitely! I got divorced five years ago and have never looked back. The freedom is fabulous!!

Man in crap marriage + Messaging single Woman = After a shag.

Today’s Maths lesson over.

@Findingthelight1

Definitely! I got divorced five years ago and have never looked back. The freedom is fabulous!!

Yep. What's more, if you are single you can still date and have the odd boyfriend; as long as you make it clear you don't want to set up home with him, it could be fun. For years!

I know how you feel. I’m happily single, open to a relationship if the right one came along, but otherwise couldn’t give a f!?k and I have a well meaning female friend who never lets the subject drop and thinks my what she sees as a problem can be solved by anything with a pulse. Does my flipping head in!!!!

He is after a shag. That's what that is all about.
Just ignore any of his comments.
You're happy and that's what counts.

He sounds jealous. Your life sounds perfect

I know some people are only happy in relationships, but for me being single is heaven. I love spending time with friends & family but I'm strongest, happiest & healthiest this way.

Block him, you don't need the drain.