How much routine is too much?

[Neverland91]

Please help me!!!
I'm loosing my mind!!!!
Me and my husband have been married for 6 years this year he has always tried to be on the controlling side of things which doesn't work well as I am not easily controlled 😆
We have 2 sons aged 10 and 3 and a 1 year old dog.
Every single evening he comes home and has to have everything regimented,
The biggest thing seems to be when I have a bath, this sounds ridiculous I know!
So he will come home from work and sit and talk about everything he needs to do,
Take the bins out
Walk the dog
Pack his lunch
Have his tea
So he will then add in when are you having a bath if I tell him the wrong answer about when I'm having a bath he gets very stressy.
He will say things like right I will walk the dog while you get son to bed and then we can have our tea and then I will do this and you do that blah blah blah....
I'm literally so sick of it! It's like he's stressed about all the things he has to do before he's even got home and I mean they are all normal things?
Tonight bearing in mind I'm off to London tomorrow for a girly day (which never happens)
He says I suppose your going to want a bath tonight too like it's an actual issue 🙄
Does this stuff normally happen in families or is there something seriously wrong with my husband?

This isn't normal AT ALL. My ex was about like this, not quite the same but he'd get mad if I said I'd do something then did something different like "I'm going to watch eastenders then have a bath" but I ended up having the bath first.

Coming home later than I said I would or going somewhere different like if I said I was going to one bar but we ended up in a different one would blow his mind.

Anyway yeah, he's a ex now.

Can you live like this forever?!

He never has ago at me if I'm late or if I go elsewhere but he will just ignore me and give the silent treatment.
He is very very controlling with money and wants me to account for every single penny I spend luckily I'm back to earning but when I was on maternity it wasn't so fun.
The only reason I'm able to go to London tomorrow is because my brother paid for the trip for my birthday.
The second he heard my brother say that's what my present was he got so angry and wouldn't talk to me the rest of the night.
Hes like a spoilt child the throws his toys out of the pram.
I'm not sure I can take it for the rest of my life to be honest I live in hope it could improve?

The routine bit sounds ok; I’d quite appreciate that he seems to be taking on household management, unlike so many men!
However, what is really not ok is the controlling behaviour. The money especially thing rings alarm bells. And not sulking because you got a birthday gift? Abusive behaviour really.
I presume that he wasn’t like this before you married him?

@Neverland91

He never has ago at me if I'm late or if I go elsewhere but he will just ignore me and give the silent treatment. He is very very controlling with money and wants me to account for every single penny I spend luckily I'm back to earning but when I was on maternity it wasn't so fun. The only reason I'm able to go to London tomorrow is because my brother paid for the trip for my birthday. The second he heard my brother say that's what my present was he got so angry and wouldn't talk to me the rest of the night. Hes like a spoilt child the throws his toys out of the pram. I'm not sure I can take it for the rest of my life to be honest I live in hope it could improve?

Oh he didn't have a go.... I'd have preferred that. The silent treatment is the worst.

I’d be getting rid you can’t live like this,

No before I married him he spent money on whatever and let me have his debit card in purse.
Now if I go out to buy something particular by the time I get home hes checked on his banking what I spent and where and questions if its £1 more when I brought a drink.
I do appreciate he does jobs but he talks about them so much as of to say I do nothing and makes feel like I do nothing.
I love him but If I try talking about he just comes out with
It's because I'm a crap husband and a crap dad etc like he wants a pity party.
I can't see it lasting forever but us splitting up literally breaks my heart for my boys and things are a bit complicated with house etc I'd be left with nothing x