Hey I could do with some other perspectives please!
My partner and I decided we needed some space so he moved out. We had issues which largely boiled down to him contacting other women or making sexual comments on social media platforms. It’s an addiction. A bad one!
It was agreed space was needed so we could work on things and see if we could salvage the relationship - sounds crazy I know after what he’s done.
He has been off of fb due to past issues. Literally within days he was back on it. But telling me his active status was off!
Well I snooped and discovered that it was off sometimes but also on sometimes.
He has been staying here for a couple of nights a week but I really felt like I was the only one working on any issues we had.
When I raised the fb issue his answer was always “we are having space and in that these questions shouldn’t be asked”.
I was starting to get uncomfortable with this as I felt he was getting the best of both worlds!!
I’ve admitted that checking up on him is unhealthy and toxic but by the same token I feel him being on fb hardly helps and add to that lying about being active!!
So I’ve put a stop to the whole thing and he’s no longer coming round.
We spoke this evening and again he’s raised that he shouldn’t have to do anything I want him to ie come off fb. I didn’t even suggest that btw but I did say it doesn’t help with trust.
He has a good way of twisting what I say as my suggestion gets turned into “just because it doesn’t sit right with you” or “is this what you call having space” or “just because I don’t meet your expectations”.
Tbh I’m done. He cannot have a 2 way civil conversation but I just wanted to get that off of my chest and seek thoughts on it please.