How to nourish my dear son...

[JC2021]

My son is so intuitive, sensitive and a beautiful old soul, he will be 3 in October..! He amazes me with the things he remembers and the music he likes..

For example Dom McClean Starry night - he says "mama, this is beautiful"...

Omg heart melts.. I'm not just saying this, but he isn't your average 3 year old.. (at times he certainly is!) but I mean his general level of awareness.

At times I'm quite gobsmacked..

He is wonderful and so kind..

How do I nourish this old soul? Ensure he is understood in settings when I'm not there?

@PinkFootstool

Take him to the Sistine Chapel?

That made me snort laugh 🤣🤣🤣 Oh OP, I hope you save this post and look back on it in a few years.

Ah come on.

A quick search of OPs posts (as some have already done) shows that she's been concerned about her son for months.

Could be a long-game troll, but giving this one the benefit of the doubt, it sounds like this mum could need some support.

@JC2021 Just nourish your son by being with him, by listening to him, and talking with him. Give him the confidence to tell you what he experiences when you're not there. Good communication between you and any other care setting is important. But it sounds like the importance of another care setting for now is socialising, which is something you've identified he struggles with, rather than nourishment as such.

You acknowledge you've had some post-natal MH issues. Are you still taking care of these?

@dappledsunshine

I always thought pfb was precious first born

Me too…

I think it’s lovely. My friend has a DS like this. She’s just really loving and supportive and tries to give him the confidence to reject the toxic masculine stereotypes other little boys his age are subjected to. The world could do with gentle, sensitive men.

You could show him a book of paintings by Vincent Van Gogh, including "Starry Night", and explain that this is the man the song is about. Get him into art. Set up a toddler-sized easel and encourage him to paint his own landscapes and stars.

IME, little kids love Van Gogh, Jackson Pollock and Matisse and enjoy doing their own versions. Especially Pollock splatter-fests.

I'm all for precious first-borns. Still besotted with mine after 13 years.

You'll feel differently when he's 9 and obsessed with Minecraft, Nerf guns, and farting

Everyone tells people their babies are advanced. It’s just something to say, like when people coo over a newborn and say “he looks just like his father” when the baby is lying there like a screwed up, boiled cabbage.

That’s not to say you’re son isn’t advanced, it’s just too early to know if that’s going to effect him in anyway at all. You are clearly obsessed with him, as all first time parents are and the thought of packing him off to nursery is terrifying. Just keep doing what you’re doing, the nursery will know how best to interact with him while he’s there and try to enjoy him while he’s still tiny.

I guess Satan could be considered an 'old soul' too...

The best thing anyone can do for their child is give them a stable happy home life where they feel
loved and able to express themselves. No moulding, no expectations, no living vicariously. If you are a multi parent household then try to set an example of being kind, polite and never arguing/ name calling, especially when they are young. If you are co-parenting with an ex then try your hardest to foster a good relationship and some mutual respect. If they are happy, secure and loved at home everything else is a bonus.

keep a diary op, so you can remember, in 10 years time when he is a difficult teenager.
no but nice to remember his ways.

🤣🤣🤣
Welcome to motherhood.

There's only one perfect angel in the world and every mother has them.

My then 3 year old son once said something so profound that we still use it as a family saying to indicate that in the end, humanity is much the same world over:

"Mummy, everybody has a dangly willy, even in other languages"

🤣 some of these replies..

Aw, bless him and you OP. That is very sweet. When my DD likes a song she says "this is a CHOON Mummy!" Not quite so precious!

Okay.

When you say you see traits in him that you don't see in other children.. it's most likely his personality which sounds lovely - but then you also don't see what beautiful and touching / insightful moments others have with their DC the same age in their own homes just as you do with yours.

All mums have these thoughts in their heads at some point as their DCs grow up. They all have something unique and special about them in their own ways. Great to share with family and close friends.

Roz Focker: “Prodigies don’t eat their boogers!”

@NormaSwilly

My then 3 year old son once said something so profound that we still use it as a family saying to indicate that in the end, humanity is much the same world over:

"Mummy, everybody has a dangly willy, even in other languages"

That is awesome.

I have too kids who, at 11 and 8, it is pretty clear that they are very able. Parenting them was no different to parenting any other child though:-

Cuddle them a lot, tell them you love them a lot, talk to them a lot, listen to them a lot, read to them a lot, play with them a lot.

Sometimes I did stuff with them “ahead of time” as that is what worked for them /me but I can’t remember what or when.

OP, I get you. My DS, now adult, is the most incredible person to have ever walked the earth. Truly remarkable in intelligence, sensitive, aware, hilarious, and amazingly good looking too. He can literally do no wrong and is perfection in human form. Those that doubt me on this are just jealous that their own sons are inadequate by comparison. I am pleased for you that your son is fabulous, but sad for you that he isn't as great as mine.

He's got a dreadful taste in music OP and I'd worry about him having nothing in common with his peers.Certainly can't imagine him finding many 3years olds to chat about Don with.

Oh bless you OP

I think this will make it to the “what’s your most embarrassing PFB moment” thread

@5128gap. . Might I ask, has your adult DS found a partner who suitably appreciates his brilliance?

On a previous thread you said he cried when you entered the room and said he didn’t like you, so you’re obviously doing well at nurturing him yourself to of made such good progress.
Have you managed to see anyone about the ASD and anxiety concerns you had?
Is he still terrified of other children?

These are the things you should be focussing on.

[quote Goldbar]@5128gap. . Might I ask, has your adult DS found a partner who suitably appreciates his brilliance?[/quote]
Oh there have been many many contenders, naturally, but so far none that I've felt were quite...how do I put it?...'right'