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Was this a sly grope?

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SomethingElf · 02/09/2021 20:32

Curious to get opinions on this...

I went on a date with a man last week. Had a walk, a meal, good conversation, no alcohol. I didn't fancy him but I enjoyed the day.
We ended up sharing a taxi back to town at the end of the evening.
The taxi ride was about 20 minutes, and we were sat in the back. Half way through the journey he tapped my boob with the back of his hand, I guessed aiming for my shoulder as if to get my attention because he thought of something funny to say. He then told me about a funny youtube clip he saw. In retrospect this had no relation to anything we were previously talking about, and wasn't funny so I was a bit confused. Tbh I was a bit shocked that he tapped me on the boob and didn't apologise, but I thought maybe he didn't realise (although surely easy to notice the difference between a boob and a shoulder?). another reason it seemed weird is that we'd had no physical contact all day so it felt a bit strange that he should even seem so chummy as to tap me, and thirdly he didn't need to tap to get my attention as I was already talking to him! Was it a sly grope, or maybe just one of those things? For context I'm 36 so been around lots of men and something about it just seemed a bit unusual. I'm not overly bothered by it, but it did make me wonder.

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SweetBabyCheeses99 · 02/09/2021 21:18

It sounds like he was just being socially awkward. Did he seem like he fancied and express an interest in seeing you again? If so maybe he did want to initiate some flirtatious contact but he fluffed it and just ended up knocking your boob.

If he was a genuinely unpleasant man who correctly sensed you weren’t interested and yet wanted to sexually assault you then I think he would have actually done this.

SimoneSimone · 02/09/2021 21:52

Sounds like it was a clumsy accident.

Voice0fReason · 02/09/2021 22:47

Doesn't sound like an attempt at a grope at all.
Sounds more like an accident.

SummerWhisper · 02/09/2021 23:13

You have already indicated that it was an unnecessary move, so therefore it was a necessary move for him to cop a feel.

SummerWhisper · 02/09/2021 23:15

Also, was he looking at you when he did it? If so, he knew what he was doing.

PumpkinKlNG · 02/09/2021 23:16

Does it matter? I take it you’re not seeing him again so?

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