Does anyone else feel flat after a date?

[Pingodingo]

Met a man earlier for a first date walk. Initial impressions were good - he was attractive, looked like his photos, he’d made an effort with his clothes in a low key way.

But. Oh god. He was dull. Nice, well meaning I think, but boring. We covered species of fish - riverfish in particular - the different types of sails on boats, the numerous holidays he’d been on, his telescope and how it worked(…. very little emotional content to any of his anecdotes iyswim, just the actual facts. Honestly, why do some men find it impossible to converse??? He has a sister and some female friends.

I’ve done a lot of OLD and after a date like this I always feel worse and even lonelier than before. Why do I bother .

Possibly worse than feeling flat after an OLD date…when they ghost you and don’t turn up at all! Happened to me last night.

@LargeBouquet - very true. I hope he bought the drinks.

@Cheeseburgerqueen - How awful. Almost happened to me once. Luckily I checked if we were still meeting up and he ghosted me. I could have turned up.

I don't want to hijack OP's thread but I am getting to the point where I don't think there is anyone out there for me. I am in my 40s and the last few men I have dated have been on the rebound and just weren't that into me.

That’s so rude to just not turn up cheeseburgerqueen. Honestly, what a dick.
There may have been a genuine reason why he couldn’t make it but not to bother letting you know is pathetic of him.

Feeling a bit better now about the date as he so wasn’t a contender, so it’s not like I liked him and he wasn’t interested. I think it’s just the realisation that it’s so hard to meet someone. I’ve done a lot of OLD, almost 100% first dates, and I can think of so few men I’d have wanted to take things any further with. I never thought it’d be so difficult. 5 years on from divorce I’ve had one serious relationship of 18 months. It’s not what I’d imagined! Almost all of my friends are in relationships, including the divorced ones, so the penny’s finally dropping that it must be me

Poor chap, he was trying to make conversation

Been on about 20 very dull dates now over 2 years and never wanted a second

Funnily I've been chatting to a
Woman who I've found far funnier , wittier , sexier and more engaging than any bloke so I think I'm gonna go for it and have a date ! She's a brassy American and I'm mouthy heart on sleeve type so we seem to get along!

I hate old. Dunno why I still look !

@Pingodingo I totally understand how you feel. I am late 30s, divorced for a year (very abusive marriage) and I can’t seem to find anyone. Been on many first dates, fed up of flakey guys and I can’t even seem to get a FWB!