He has changed hugely as a person in the last few years and discovering my attraction for him is near non existent. He doesn’t particular care for his weight, how he looks (flies are always undone) what he wears is generally quite shabby or dirt on it, he thinks about food always it’s 90% of our conversations, he doesn’t care for exercise. No life ambition or drive to do things. I have tried to speak to him many times over last few years saying I am unhappy but after talking about it things just revert back to how they were and he acts like everything is ok. I asked him how he sees our future and he can’t answer it. He avoids confrontation will forever deflect things or have excuses and not admit to anything.
He has agreed he thinks he’s depressed and has signed up with the mental health team for group therapy. Which is good but I am still the only person that knows he won’t talk to family or anyone. I am struggling to manage it all. We have a 3 year old DS who I love to pieces and he does too. I go away next week for work and I can’t wait to escape from it all. I feel hugely at a breaking point with handling it all and my feelings towards him. He’s not a bad person but has lost his way over the years where as I am finding myself and struggling with my feelings towards it all now & towards him. I know I’m not perfect and the more time goes on I am snapping more, shut off more from him. Sorry for venting & long post just not sure what to do or where to go. Has anyone else struggled with partners depression. Will group therapy help him? I am going to speak to a counsellor to help me through my thoughts and feelings.