Will I ever get over my ex?

[Jonnyb123]

Good evening everyone :)
So as the title says I can't seem to ever forget my ex and fully get over her, we were together for 4yrs and I loved her dearly until she left me 14 months ago. In that time I have had a new girlfriend who I left as it was not right and I didn't feel the same way she did about me which was a shame as she was lovely so I cut it off after 6months and a big reason I think it did not work is that I still am not fully over my ex as at least a few times a week every week I think about her and us and I urge to message her which I never do as I chicken out. We have spoken in the past few months though as my ex out of nowhere video called me drunk one night when she was out as she was walking past a busker who was playing one of our songs baring in mind I had not spoken to her in ages anyway we were texting all that night and she was telling me she loved me, missed me and deep stuff like saying she wishes she kept our baby that we aborted and she still thinks about it. Now here is the bad part my ex has a boyfriend who she has just bought a house with, yes a house. They have only been together 10/11 months she got with him like 3 months after we broke up so I am not sure why she was saying all this to me she also implied that I should go round when he works away. Anyway, after that night, we didn't talk all week then the weekend after she did the same thing started video calling me drunk saying similar things to me. Then after the night, I didn't hear anything from her until I messaged her during the day one week when she was at work and she was polite and okay but very off compared to when she was drunk. Anyway I have not spoken to her since that a month or so ago now but every day I get the urge to message her.
Will I ever move on from her? As I still love her and when we broke up we didn't talk for a good 7 months and even then I couldn't get over her and over a year on still, not over her. Also what is going on with her with all the things she said when drunk I mean she must still love me also? or maybe not.

No she doesn't love you anymore... That's why she left...please do not hold out any hope...
You need to move on... Work on trying to move on... Its not easy I agree... But if you've loved someone that much before, you can do so again with someone else.....

No she doesn’t love you, she ended things with you. She called you because she was drunk and people can do stupid things when they are drunk.

It always takes me a long time to move on from somebody when I have lived them, but I always have managed it in the end. Keep yourself busy, throw yourself into new things, you will get there.

Im so sorry you havent been able to move on. Sadly, we have all been there. Your ex drunk calling you, is sadly just drunk calling. As a previous poster said, it takes time. I think most of us has been in this situation and it does get better.

it sounds like it's not really her you miss so much as being in the relationship and your rose tinted idea of what the relationship was rather than what it actually was.
It all sounds very toxic, abortion, new man, drunken calls, potentiqal cheating. Do you need that kind of drama.
Better to accept she's gone and move on.

Thanks for taking your time to reply everyone. I just hope I can move on as like I say I did find another girlfriend but I didn’t feel the way I should of wether that was anything to do with me not been over my ex or just that I wasn’t in to her romantically regardless. Hopefully I find someone and I actually love them more.

Trust me - I’ve been here. Take your rose tinted specs off and block your ex. She has moved on very quickly and bought a house - she is willing for you to come round when her fella is away? Wtf? Block and find somebody worthy with no head wrecking drama !!!

@Catlover1970

Trust me - I’ve been here. Take your rose tinted specs off and block your ex. She has moved on very quickly and bought a house - she is willing for you to come round when her fella is away? Wtf? Block and find somebody worthy with no head wrecking drama !!!

Yep that’s what she said… as we got a bit flirty and talking about sex etc and she was saying she missed my penis etc so I said come get it jokingly and that’s when she said come when he works away . I was quite shocked to be honest but to be fair she has never acted upon the drunk words, although I think if I ever saw her on a night out would possibly be a different story but I don’t think I could do that knowing she has a boyfriend who seems a nice guy.