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WWYD….would you tell?

10 replies

Amandasummers · 31/08/2021 02:57

Probably not as dramatic as title sounds.

My mum has a very turbulent relationship with step dad, always rowing always on and off, he treats her like shit.

Anyway, she had to isolate for a week so was home (they don’t live together) all that time, when she’s allowed out, she goes out with him as arranged, we were there at one point, just at a social club my family go to (a lot!!! That’s a whole other thread) anyway, randomly at one point the last other person there went to the bar and step dad just tells my mum it’s over. Just like that. Completely random and cruel and unnecessary.

So they have split but everyone just thinks they’ll get back together you know? But oh!!! It’s not even been 2 weeks and he’s got a new woman and there she is, in the social club, literally as if my mum has just been replaced. It’s so horrible and my heart breaks for my mum.

She suspects, but doesn’t know, I now know. I don’t want to break her but it should come from me shouldn’t it? It’s spread like wildfire so everybody knows. It should be me right???

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Amandasummers · 31/08/2021 03:09

I’m so angry and feel so bloody sorry for her 😞

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SugarHouse1 · 31/08/2021 03:13

@Amandasummers That’s awful! I think you have to tell her as she will find out at some point. I would point out all of the new woman’s faults though, just to make your mum feel better. And just be there for her.

Amandasummers · 31/08/2021 03:15

Loool it’s pathetic that we do that isn’t it, I’ve not even seen her but I’ve been doing it all night. Sometimes think that’s worse though! Chucked for someone worse.

They’ve been together 14 years. Not only has he broken her heart but he’s publicly humiliating her to! I’m ready to lose my shit to be honest! My mum let’s things lie, I don’t!!!

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Amandasummers · 31/08/2021 03:16

My partner drinks with him, so he brought her to the table with him as well! No shame. Who is that arrogant?!

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Palavah · 31/08/2021 06:22

What did your partner do then?

rattlemehearties · 31/08/2021 06:43

Not sure why you're getting dragged into making drama about it. You should simply and calmly tell your mum the fact and support her. No need to bitch about the other woman or get mardy with him - just blank him now.

frozendaisy · 31/08/2021 06:46

I am presuming they aren't married married?

Just tell her bluntly rip that plaster off.

They are always rowing, always on and off doesn't sound like it's a great relationship, he's done her a favour.

Blueskytoday06 · 31/08/2021 06:52

Yeah you have absolutely got to tell her. Purely because when it goes tits up with this other woman he won't go crawling back to your mum. Whether you telling her, will be enough for her to wake up and stop being a doormat is anyone's guess.

Amandasummers · 31/08/2021 08:36

@Palavah

What did your partner do then?
He left
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OldEvilOwl · 31/08/2021 11:34

Tell her, she deserves to know

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