Hi everyone
I think I am pretty sure I want to leave my relationship of 18 months - it was my first relationship after getting divorced and I think this is why I am struggling to let go. I have two teens. he never married despite having several longish-term relationships. Recently I feel he doesn't keep much in touch with me during the week - he takes 12 or more hours to send a reply to a text I've sent and then doesn't even answer it sometimes. Calls are fewer than before although we also used to call more. He is fine on the phone when I call but doesn't seem to pick the phone up himself much. I get that after 18 months you may not text too much - we tend to go for dinner / cook together but when I have made suggestions to do other things he just says no (another reason why I am thinking of knocking it on the head) - things like I don't like cinema, comedy, exhibitions, etc. He is a bit of a drinker too and I turned up on Saturday and could tell he had a few drinks - he had booked dinner for me as a birthday treat but from last year (spa+dinner - I went to the spa and then the plan was to have dinner) - I. nearly walked out but he had made an effort to ring around a few restaurants and find one, bought a vape after me for months saying the smoking was bothering me and was generally attentive (but pissed). Its the highs and lows - fun when we see each other (we have high chemistry which is also another issue - good and bad of course) and then when I leave or dont' see him, he's more inconsistent with contact. He used to make the effort. He also has an ex he is good friends with and is almost sharing her dog with her (her dog, not theirs) - she got it about a year ago and he is totally involved in it - he even went to dog school with her with it and is going for dog walks with her / her friends every Sat morning. I dont' think there is anything going on but he may be a little infatuated with the dog /her. Anyhow, just wanted to put this out there :)