I met someone last year and not in the best circumstances. My marriage ended 3 years ago. He cheated after 10 years together and two beautiful children. I dated a great guy a year after my marriage ended, and we were seeing each other for a year. Until I ruined things so I moved on and met someone else. In walks the most charismatic, fun, wild man I have ever met. Then I discover to my disgust after a month of seeing him, He was in a long-term relationship. I blocked him on everything and then had contact from his partner who found out everything. I had been told they had split up 8 months before, yet he didn't bad mouth her at all, just said they were very different people and not compatible. So ended up chatting with her on social media all evening, ending up feeling like I was counselling her, they had been having issues for 8 months, they had talked about what they wanted to change, yet it never had. So he joined a dating site, then met me. I thought he was genuine, we talked and messaged for a month before we met, and he seemed genuinely a nice guy. She even confirmed it. Yet told me not to blame myself and that she loved him and wanted to try and save things. So as I say I blocked him and left them to it, to try and work things out. I was really disappointed to have met someone I did gel with, yet I do have morals and a kind heart. So I moved on with my life. Went on a few other dates yet nothing came of them. Till the guy I had met in not the best way. Contacted me and told me they had split up, he was sorry he hadn't been honest,. and did genuinely think I was lovely. He asked if he could see me again. I firstly said no thanks, and you have to get on with your new life. Yet he didn't stop contacting me, not to a point that he was being a nuisance, yet my friend said, he doesn't sound like he was a horrible man, just clearly unhappy in his last relationship and didn't end it before coming towards you. So I agreed to see him, he told me everything, that he had really loved the woman he had now left, they had been together for 3 years, they had been having loads of issues for a long time, which they both knew were there, yet he admits he was a coward and should off left her rather than did what he did. I then receive a message from her, saying if he hasn't already I think he will be in touch with you, and she thanked me for being a decent woman and letting them try and salvage things, yet she said the minute they tried, she knew they were over, as she realised he was from a lovely family had been so good to her during the rest of that connection. Yet it had died, and he should have been honest, yet he wasn't. So I started spending time with him, mainly just talking and letting him tell me about all of his life, his past, his failed marriage to different woman. It was quite a story to tell, yet I also know he wasn't honest to someone clearly very nice. Yet did that make him heartless or did he do what all of us do, be a coward and took the easy option rather than the kind one? I have now known him properly for a year, he's always been lovely to me, and we laugh, hes there for me to rant to when I'm having issues. Yet a big issue one of my friends doesn't like how we met, and tell me constantly I should walk away and meet someone in her view with better morals. Now on the other end of things one of my work colleagues, cheated on her ex, I asked her why and how did she feel about doing it? Her answer she was bored, her ex wasn't giving her any attention so she went and got it elsewhere. She admits she was selfish and it wasn't her kindest move. Yet she tells me he isn't a bad man doing what he did, and yeh he might do the same again if things got stagnant, yet does cheating once make it happen again., She says she hasn't and she remarried and is very happy with her new partner. It's just my other friend who i've known since I was 12 that makes me question, everything. Yet even my mum, tells me to not let her views get in the way that he makes me smile, and no one on the planet is perfect, and if they think they are then they are deluding themselves. Has anyone been in the same situation, and let others judgement stop something that feels great still a year on.