Pretty much that really, I’m new to this so bare with me and my spelling mistakes :) so I’m due to get married in about 6mnths time and had asked my sister who I’m closest with and her DP to be witnesses and their kids bridesmaids ect, also we asked if they could have 2 of our children while we where on the honeymoon, as we really haven’t got anybody else to ask. We’d pay her of course as my kids are abit much at times, they said yes of course and everything was fine. Over time she has said things like don’t sit me next to them or I’ll end up saying something, and has been saying things to her DP and told me on the phone that if he has a go at a certain someone when he’s drunk then so be it I’ll sit back and smile and let him, I did butt in and said now there’s a time and place for this and it ain’t at a wedding, she laughed and went quiet. Then the next problem was I wanted to invite my other sisters ex partner if she needed the help with the kids(shes got 4) and they are very good mates still. But my sis said no don’t get inviting them can you imagine so and so together. Bit of back story…….5yrs ago I moved to Scotland and the relationship has been different but nothing out of the ordinary as being over 300 miles away does change things ect. I make the effort to go down to see my mum and other family and always go over to hers to see her. She has been up mine x2 over the 5yrs. We also had her kids the night and day before she was getting married at Gretna, that’s the 1st time she had come up here. I used to have her kids regular sleep over at wknds when I lived down south for them, and when I moved up I had the girls stay up mind for a few days, caused a lot of problems as when they got back the day after I had a phone call from my sis saying one of her dd’s thought my dog look depressed and should go live with my mum, and if I wanted my sis would ring my mum for me and sort it. To say I was shocked was an understatement, so I’ve never had the girls stay again.My mum was in hospital not that long ago and after a couple of weeks of getting out I said I’d come down, so I messaged my sis to see if she wanted to join us for the meal, she said yeh go on then as she was peed of with her DP again going out with his mates and leaving her and the kids.Well I got down there and the day we where meant to be going for the meal my mum received an email saying sorry she wasn’t going, she couldn’t afford it and that she would make it upto my mum by taking her out for a meal with her DP, then my other sis turns up and said she’s spoken to her and she’d offered to lend her the money it wouldn’t of been much but she refused. I hadn’t received a message or anything to say she wasn’t coming or an apology as I was the one who invited her and not the others? Well a month has gone by and not a word from her, which is very odd behaviour even my other family have said this is strange. So today I messaged to ask what the problem was as I haven’t heard of her and about the meal ect she basically said there was nothing wrong and that she had to pay for uniforms ect so couldn’t afford it, so I put yes that’s fine but why tell mum and the other sister but not myself when I’m the one who invited you? And in a nut shell she put well if you think it’s strange then you think that. Well we got more into a heated debate and I said if you didn’t want to watch the kids this is a silly way of doing things and you could of just said and we would of sorted it. Has anyone else had the same problem or have a clue what’s going on? We’ve now cancelled the honeymoon as we can’t leave it until last minute and not get a refund.